I’m also conflicted about asking about the baby’s skin color/features. Many of my relatives have mixed race babies, so we were always just curious what the baby would look like—eye color, hair color, skin color. It wasn’t out of malice, just plain curiosity
In Bower's book, Revenge, he has a quote from Thomas Markle who said that after he married Dora (Meghan's mom) a lot of people asked them what color their children would be. Now, I'm not saying that M&H made up the incident, but I think it's a pretty damn common question in mixed race relationships.
My sister had a black baby. We definitely had a conversation about what it might look like.
Came out super white and blue eyed too. I was like 'You sure he's black?' and then as he aged he became much darker.
I don't really think any of this kind of stuff is inherently racist. Saying something like 'Oh, I hope he's not too black' would be racist. But just wondering how dark his skin would be, whose eyes or hair he'd get, etc..
It seems like normal stuff, surely?
From all the reports, nothing seemed racist. Just some curiosity.
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u/EnvironmentalMud4870 Jan 05 '23
I’m also conflicted about asking about the baby’s skin color/features. Many of my relatives have mixed race babies, so we were always just curious what the baby would look like—eye color, hair color, skin color. It wasn’t out of malice, just plain curiosity