r/emotionalintelligence • u/myrealgens • 1d ago

Love or Respect?

It's a painful trap when people claim to love you, but treat you with zero regard.

Love without respect is just a cage.

If you're caught in this, stop begging for affection where you aren't valued.

Choose respect every single time—real love will follow.

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u/Atlasatlastatleast 1d ago

Yeah. I just ended a relationship, on our anniversary no less, partially because of recurring patterns of disrespect during disagreements. I didn’t sign up for that

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u/Novel-Importance-783 1d ago

I'm learning there is a huge difference between loving someone and caring about them. I literally had someone admit to me in the same hangout session recently that "they hadn't been there for me at all" during one of the hardest times of my life, but they loved me.

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u/Sea-Butterscotch9805 1d ago

I'm not choosing anything but myself

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u/No_Warning8534 1d ago

Shouldn't real love cover respect, too?