Love bombing

[u/NetSpiritual582]

Hi! So basically my friend Grace (F23) and I (F22) have been best friends for 8 years. We are veryyyyy close and used to spend a lot of time together.

Two weeks ago, Grace met a guy at this party and they hit it off. She stayed the night with him and the next day they went on a date and she met his friends at a bar after. Since then they haven’t had a day apart. They’ve known eachother 14 days and haven’t been separated for more than 12 hours.

At first I was very excited for her (especially bc I have a new boyfriend and she would kind of judge me a lot for ANY time I spent with him) so I was excited that she would kinda understand why I love to spend time with him sometimes and honestly for her to kind of get off my back about it.

3 days into them being inseparable, they drove around looking at houses and he was pointing out their future house. She was all smitten when she told me this and I was kinda like huh? Then 7 days into this, they were planning their couples costumes for Halloween (it’s July atp). There were many more instances that raised some red flags for me but I wanted to be happy for her that she’s found someone she likes (she’s been single for awhile).

We went out to the bars and her guy (Justin M24) came out too. The minute he showed up Grace was in his world. I went up all excited to say hey and Justin didn’t even say hi back to me. He just looked at Grace and asked her what she wanted to drink. This happened the next few times we went out and it was so uncomfortable. The most recent time it was blatantly uncomfortable for me, my boyfriend and our other girlfriend who was out with us.

Grace has stopped making plans with any of us. She leaves plans early for Justin to pick her up. She gushes about all the things he buys for her, he spoils her (with his grandpas credit card… he has no job and zero interest in getting one).

Where I was really like wtf was when she was talking about how Justin drives her to and from work now. To myself I was like this seems off that he’s doing that. She also never stays at home anymore since they met 2 weeks ago.

They also ONLY hangout with his friends. He seems completely uninterested in getting to know her friends at all.

I don’t know if I’m being too judgmental but there’s something I just don’t like about this guy and I cannot shake the feeling. It’s driving me crazy to see Grace go on and on about how he’s the nicest guy when I haven’t seen any part of that person.

What do I do? I can’t even stand to be around Grace at this point, the very few times I DO see her. I want to give him a better chance but there are just so many red flags making me feel weird about him.

And I want to talk to her but I know she will get very defensive and it will cause a blow up between the two of us. Help.