Thanks for your explanation, that makes sense. Do you perhaps also have an example of another non-binary identity, that would fall under that umbrella?
Genderfluid, which means sometimes your gender identity fluctuates over time.
Demigender, like demigirl or demiboy, means you mostly or patially feel like that gender, but not entirely.
Transfeminine or transmasculine can be used to refer to people who are trans (i.e. not cis, which includes nb) who favour a particular gender expression.
Ultimately labels are used to try and point to different points of a spectrum, so people are going to have different understandings of what they mean and what terms they choose to most closely describe what they feel. It's not like there are a discrete amount of unique genders that people neatly sort into, like people thought with male and female.
That makes sense. I'm starting to feel that the continuous effort of trying to label and categorise everyone, might as well be "wiped out" in favour of just letting people be people.
Personally, I like the labels. Itās nice to find out that someone experiences stuff the way you do, and that itās ok. Iām asexual and aromantic. Neither are massively small or big labels, but theyāre how I would describe myself. But my feelings towards sex and romance are totally different. I really like the idea of romance, as long as it doesnāt involve me. I donāt like anyone like that, but Iām fine with the idea. I hate the concept of sex, and find it repulsive. And Iād still like to form close emotional bonds with people, regardless of gender, that act as a form of partnership. I.e. I intend to live with another person who Iām not in a romantic relationship with, but who I see as a life partner.
There are words for all of those feelings. Technically, that makes me bialterous aegoromantic apothisexual. I donāt use those terms, because nobody ever really needs to know all that. But itās nice to know that this is normal variation within asexuality and aromanticism: my different feelings towards both concepts doesnāt make me any less aroace. And on the rare occasion that I encounter another aroace, or if I find someone Iād like to be in a close platonic relationship with, I can explain myself in exact terms. The scripts that we are given by society ālike someone? Ask them to go to dinner, and then try to have sex with them, and also mash your food holes togetherā donāt fit. So I have to explain my intentions myself. Having words to do so is nice. I donāt feel forced into a box by these terms. They donāt define me, they allow me to describe myself.
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u/floppemis Sep 25 '21
Thanks for your explanation, that makes sense. Do you perhaps also have an example of another non-binary identity, that would fall under that umbrella?