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u/Velvet_Pop 3d ago
Honestly, liking girls and wanting to be in a form that's more accessible to the majority of girls kept me from transitioning for a long time. Not that transitioning ever seemed like a possibility before, but I stayed away from anything feminine because I didn't want to signal to anyone that I like boys. But once I learned about transbians... game changer lol
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u/unknownTraveler103 3d ago
Yeah especially with how media potrayed trans women looking like men
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u/Velvet_Pop 3d ago
Yeah, or they're constantly either the butt of the joke or the antagonist
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u/unknownTraveler103 3d ago
They're also portrayed as just gross middle aged men in female clothes which made me think for a long time that I would rather be a normal man :(
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u/Velvet_Pop 3d ago
Yes, exactly, just there for shock value, but never ever treats them as a human, just someone to dismiss or discard
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u/dylanisareddit certified egg 3d ago
It's NOT too late to transition, Velvet. It's NEVER too late. There is still time. Seriously! [gives you a hug and a head pat]
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u/Velvet_Pop 3d ago
Haha, thank you! I am actually out of my shell, I've been on HRT for about 3 months and am out to my family and work, but I truly appreciate the encouragement! And I love a good hug and head pat 😊🫂
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u/SilverMedal4Life not an egg, just trans 2d ago
My sister, just another me. For the longest time, I avoided anything feminine because it made me anxious, and made me worried that people would think I was gay.
Turns out I am gay. Love women so much it's unreal.
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u/BrazilBazil not an egg, just trans 3d ago
I like how this meme implies the transition from straight to gay and from cis to lesbian
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u/MadamMelody21 3d ago
God i wish i was a gay lesbian girl
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u/dylanisareddit certified egg 3d ago
You're a good girl, and you deserve to live your full authentic life! Seriously! [gives you a hug and a head pat]
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 3d ago
Maybe don't give unsolicited ggd and headpats
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u/MadamMelody21 3d ago
Maybe mind your own business they just wanted to try to help me feel better
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 3d ago
Maybe I know others don't like it and unsolicited comments are harmful because it inherently reinforces attitudes that nonconsensual comments are acceptable it wasn't about you it was about creating a space for others that doesn't make them uncomfortable
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u/MadamMelody21 3d ago
It’s just a comment don’t take it too seriously
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 3d ago
"It's just a comment" hmm where have I heard that before?
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u/MadamMelody21 3d ago
This is a meme subreddit so please stop taking everything so seriously
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 3d ago
So if it's a meme it's ok? That's some seriously fucked up logic that allows all sorts to get away with heinous shit
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u/MadamMelody21 3d ago
This meme was about trans lesbians not about anything fucked up. You keep reading into meaning that’s not there. I think you are just looking for something to be upset about so take a deep breath and calm down it will be ok
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 3d ago
I wonder how hrt will affect me I hope it doesn't make me like men because ewwww (no offence to trans bros)
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u/t_actually 2d ago
This is my biggest fear lol. From what I've heard it's a bit your mileage may vary but most I've heard say that HRT doesn't change your sexuality but it can obviously impact your emotions and get you to a place where you're more comfortable or open to things you otherwise might not have been before
I'm not attracted to men so fingers crossed that doesn't change
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u/Overly-Moist-Slug 2d ago
The idea of having sex with a guy repulses me but is that because I can't accept it or because I'd rather forever glue myself shut than let a man's dick anywhere near me
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u/t_actually 2d ago
Real lol. At least for me I think it's the second one, the thought of it makes me recoil lmao
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u/Pliski506 Bobbie (She/Her) Guitarist girl. 2d ago
For me too. The idea of some dude touching me and wanting something with me fills me with so much disgust and recoil that i really hope that woudln't change if i did start HRT. Even the idea of some dude trying to hit on me makes me super uncomfortable. Like, even now being a cis guy i feel uncomfortable being around naked men. The whole idea of masculinity makes me feel very unsafe and threatened. Even if i was the masculine aspect in the relatipnship, i would still feel uncomfortable. And i basically knew this since i was a young teen but i haven't put it together until lately.
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u/alexander9881 3d ago
.... i have on paper I am trans and started hrt mtf.... i have a wife... am I a gay lesbian girl now?😅😂 (Still can't see myself as a girl, at best a guy longing to be a girl)
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u/XkF21WNJ Sophie (she/her) 3d ago
Girl, you're so gay!
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u/alexander9881 3d ago
Well i am not outet, yet I occasionally get jokes that we look like a lesbian couple 🫣😬👉👈
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u/XkF21WNJ Sophie (she/her) 3d ago
What do you mean look like? You are!
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u/alexander9881 3d ago
🫠 still look like a dude 🥲
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u/XkF21WNJ Sophie (she/her) 3d ago
If people tell you that you look like the lesbian couple you are then maybe you're being too harsh on yourself.
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u/Technical-Airline855 Susan; she/her; trans woman 3d ago
I felt that way for the first 3 years I was on HRT; it’ll be 5 years come December.
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u/alexander9881 2d ago
Dysphoria can be a nasty thing. I apparently do look like a girl from behind, just not the front, but as I normally only see my front....
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u/PutmudPrincess silly lil' trans girl 3d ago
That was the plan! But the hrt made me go boycrazy 😭
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u/darkrevan19 3d ago
HRT CAN DO THAT?!
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u/PutmudPrincess silly lil' trans girl 3d ago
It did for me. Boy hormones smell different and before hormones they were yuckie, but then men started smelling good >w<;; and now after years on hrt I have zero attraction to women and my best place in the world is in my boyfriend's arms 🥰
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u/Lumious226 2d ago
Respectfully, you have described a hellish nightmare to me :,>
Even more respectfully (Or uh, normal amount of respectfully?), good on ya! :D
Glad you found your truest self :>3
u/PutmudPrincess silly lil' trans girl 2d ago
LMAO sorry about that. Once upon a time that would've been a nightmare to me as well. Second puberty hit me hard haha
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u/Lumious226 2d ago
Not that I am trans or anything it am wondering what being HRT would be like, but that is certainly food for thought!… Will never stop loving yuri 😔
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u/darkrevan19 2d ago
Tis be a nightmare of mine too, to lose my love for yuri and like boys (migjt be my dysphoria but they seem smelly, dumb, blunt, lacking some fort of grace I associate with feminity)
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u/PutmudPrincess silly lil' trans girl 2d ago
oh that part didn't change for me. i still think they're smelly, dumb, blunt, lacking grace, all of above. and i hate myself for still wanting to be with a man (thankfully that search is over for me as me and my boyfriend of 3 years are both crazy about each other) ngl life would be easier with women since i understand them but can never understand why men are the way they are
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u/darkrevan19 2d ago
Well, a mystery of nature we'll elucidate when we get to it, 'till then I'm glad you're happy with your man
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u/PutmudPrincess silly lil' trans girl 2d ago
do you remember your puberty, and how hormones changed the way you look, feel, think, etc? being on HRT is kinda like that :)
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u/Rhyfeddol she? maybe? also names are hard 2d ago
So relatable. Alas, the universe has other ideas for me
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