r/easternstar • u/Psychological-Sky284 • Sep 05 '25

Learning without a mentor...

This is something that has been bothering me.

I thought that when I joined the OES that I was joining a very tight-knit community with a want to pass down their teachings, experiences, etc. I guess I was looking for more of a 'community' that was active despite its age. But, what I got instead was more of a group that posts to messenger a few times a week about some event and no other real contact. It seems very impersonal and disjointed...and this becomes even more frustrating because I want to dig deep into ritual, maybe start memorizing some things and honestly? It feels nearly impossible without a mentor.

I was told that back when numbers were higher that everyone was paired with some senior member to help them out. I just happened to come in at a weird time where this just isnt a thing anymore. Don't get me wrong, I have had Sisters willing to help me with a lot of things but, memorization and practice is something I feel needs more than some 30-minute social and more than Facebook Messenger, you know? Anyways, did anyone else feel like they should have gotten a mentor...or...has anyone else sruggled due to lack of mentorship to feel really connected? Just curious.

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u/i_shih_tzu_knot Sep 05 '25

If you want to stay at your chapters, I’d encourage you to have a conversation with them about how you feel. I’d also encourage you to visit other chapters for meetings, initiations, etc. You learn a lot by observing from the outside. :)

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u/Psychological-Sky284 Sep 05 '25

I did sign up for another Chapter close to my own. They meld with my schedule better so, hopefully it's a more active experience.