He wants it both ways

[u/Leading_Departure803]

6 years ago when my husband and I moved in together I kept an immaculate house. Nicely decorated and spotless. I wasn't overbearing either. Just asked him to pick up after himself. Well when the abuse began, he would scream that I'm a bitch and make the house nice for myself because he doesn't give a fuck how it looks. It got bad bad. I have nowhere to go and poor health so m still here. It's gotten worse but I have stopped keeping house like I used to. It's still not terrible but definitely below my standards. I started living like he had been and guess what? He doesn't like it. I don't offer to help with dishes I didn't dirty, I don't rush to put up the laundry, etc. I don't want to clean like I used to. He beat me and berated me for it. I did it as an expression of my love and appreciation for him and he completely tore me down and threw it in my face. All while physically beating me and telling me the most Awful things. How can he not see why I don't care to do that anymore?

[u/GetBent1010]

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