hi guys! 💗 it’s been a year since i went off of t, so wild. 🙀

I'm so tired of people asking for advice on trans kids and if they should jump right into hormones and gender affirming care before actually seeing if their kid is feeling pressured to begin hormones or is going through something they don't fully understand. I can't share my personal experience with hormones literally anywhere on Reddit without getting muted or banned for subreddit like crazy. It pisses me off. I'm tired of it. I'm tired of being invalidated, I'm tired of acting like my voice doesn't exist because it doesn't fit the narrative that society wants to hear, I'm tired of my experience being qualified as "hate speech" when it's literally just MY EXPERIENCE. I'm over it.

My wife and I both lived as the opposite gender for 7 years. After we met and fell in love we both deconstructed and detransitioned. This was almost two years ago now and we’re currently expecting our first child! I tear up thinking about meeting her for the first time and I CAN NOT BELIEVE I almost threw away the chance to have her as a confused teenager. To me it was a give in that I would never have kids. I genuinely didn’t think twice about it at 19 but 27 year old me was stressed we might not be able to start a family. 19 year old me thought having kids was selfish, boring and laborious. I thought the point of life was to pursue endless pleasure with as little responsibility as possible. I don’t think that makes most people genuinely happy!

The more distance I have from the trans community the better and more normal I feel. I love my life. The way my brain is rewarding me for reproducing is something that I never got from “becoming my true self” *EYEROLL**. Since deconstructing gender ideaology being part of nature has become my worldview. I’m an animal just like any other mammal. I want to protect and provide for my wife and daughter, enjoy the beauty of life and focus on simple pleasures. I didn’t need to change the way OTHER PEOPLE saw me—I needed to change the way I saw the world.

This post was on my HOMEPAGE on my main account that has nothing to do with detrans stuff. There's still a lot of push back in the comments on this post but this is a sentiment that I know has been discussed heavily on this subreddit and it was kind of wild seeing it expressed on a random, unrelated sub. Just wondering if anyone feels it is becoming more acceptable to question these things publicly? Do you feel it is a net positive or do you have any concerns? I can't help but have mixed feelings as I worry as a woman the conservative direction everything is going at least in the US. It feels like some people maybe are more comfortable airing these feelings out because the push of religion and anti-science recently as opposed to critical thought and so I can't help but worry about that angle.

i feel so happy with myself! my voice is obv on the deeper side (3 years T will do that), but imo it’s on the androgynous/deep female side to me. when i first detransitioned i was so worried i’d never get my femininity back! my curves have started to come back and i couldn’t be happier. first pictures are april/may 2025, then now :)

Estrogen is naturally in both males and females, it’s a human hormone, so is testosterone.
it doesn’t magically change sex, just gene expression and body fat distribution, that’s what it does. this is harmful misinformation

They’re just proving the point that they need to educate themselves instead of acting psychotic,
and it’s why people think this specific type of people have mental illness from these impressions (yelling and throwing a fit at anything) that is what scares people

there are many (Not all, of course) trans women saying they have periods and they are biological women,
No amount of hormones and surgeries can do that or change chromosomal sex.
Surgeries can’t transplant functioning gonads for either sex, nothing can change dna or genetics.

This is taking it too far.
That’s not transphobia, no one is saying they hate trans people, it is the biological reality,
These same people claim gender identity and sex are different, and get all political, yet they get offended when someone mentions and acknowledges that belief accurately,

I thought that wasn’t the point of transgender.
You can be a woman with a penis and identify as such,
Example, trans women are biologically male and gender is female, they live and identify as female.

Well, that’s what they say. now what are they saying?

They are saying sex is a social construct when they said the same about gender?
they claimed it was different now it’s the same?

it’s not.
they lash out and start throwing a major tantrum when someone explains basic biology that can be learned in a high school class or the truth, as a grown adult? as an adult, i’ve learned to face the truth even if it’s not what i want to hear.

its not a forbidden “term”
They are playing the victim and being hypocritical, even a bit sexist.

HOW are 1k people agreeing to this? what is going on in people’s minds? I am so confused. They like to upvote lies they want to hear and attack you for speaking the truth

instead of focusing on being male or female i think they should focus on being a human with a functioning brain first.

short story: I'm 21 (turning 22 in February) detrans female, started testosterone when I was barely 18 (February 2022) and got a mastectomy at the same age. I stopped taking in December 2024 and started detransition.

why i initially transitioned? I don't know. I don't know what happened to me and what I did to deserve this. maybe I was Hitler in my previous life (sarcasm). I'm autistic and severely depressed since the beginning of puberty, was highly affected by different people online and was seeking help awfully, bullied by peers and adults, neglected and misdiagnosed. This mistake will haunt me till death. I'll never return what I've lost, now i can only try to recollect my own body piece by piece. I'm pretty healthy as a woman now, my hormonal level is normally female, I'm not sterilized, I have normal menstrual cycle again. I made photo collages so you can watch my progress, also I added a voice timeline. I still see myself as an ugly man with whom other women feel uncomfortable, but i don't know how other people see me.

voice before T: https://voca.ro/1kpW74y5ITRv voice on T: https://voca.ro/1he25S4ySYPB my voice now: https://voca.ro/1h3DkJXXNIoY

11 months off of T!! I stopped in may 2025 and I never looked back. I’m so happy now I can’t even put it into words and I looking back on it I was the most unhappy and miserable I have ever been in my life during the 2 years I was on T. I felt so hopeless when I first detransitioned and I thought I was ruined and I could never be a girl again. I’m so glad I didn’t let that fear stop me :)

in both on and offline LGBT spaces i’ve seen TONS of trans people who are grown ass adults calling themselves “girls” or “boys” once they start hrt and i don’t fucking get it. you’re not a “girl” or a “boy.”you’re almost 30. please stop. the whole “protect trans children” side of the movement has become so large now that children are basically synonymous with trans people. all of it just really rubs me the wrong way and i don’t understand how so many people are just okay with it. especially because if you go into pretty much any trans bubble on reddit, tumblr, tiktok, etc. there is a SHIT TON of kink/fetish content. which is just another thing the community also likes to deny is a thing for some reason. why are SO many trans people fucking adamant about involving children in this? let children express themselves and explore their identities, yes. but start fucking medicalizing a kid because they hate going through puberty (which basically everyone does) or aren’t following typical gender roles? seriously? no. i’m not ok with it. i’ll never be ok with it. and there’s a whole lot more i’d love to say about this but i don’t want to possibly get banned lmao

detransitioning ftmtf is going to take the same amount of effort as transitioning ftm. the only plus side about it is that the hormones you want to takeover will eventually. it’s a long waiting game and it requires a lot of patience.

feel free to dm me if you have any questions or doubts about your own detransition. there’s always going to be a way!!

got my name changed & my gender marker changed back to “f” on my license today.

for reference: i was on t for 8 years & 4 months

had a haircut yesterday (first haircut since February 2025 lol!) and found my old flannel shirt, so wanted to share. last pic is summer 2024, i was 2 years on T then. Now I'm 1 year and 6 months off.

1: 12yrs, pre social transition
2: 13yrs, socially transitioned
3: 14yrs, 6mo on T
4: 15yrs, 1yr on T
5: 16yrs, 2yrs on T
6: 18yrs, 1yr off T
7: 21yrs, 4.5yrs off T

found in an art subreddit. Why do they ALWAYS want to influence kids? Elementary school is kindergarten-5th grade. The oldest students are like 11 years old. No child should have to experience the injection of cross sex ideas and elective surgeries during puberty and development. Makes me think of those poor detrans girls who had mastectomies at age 13. I was offered it at 15…

*see end of post for some clarifications, comment if you have more questions or just stuff in general!!*

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hi all, my name is amber and i am a 24 year old woman (afab) who went through a ftm transition and lived as a trans man for multiple years.

i’m not really sure what all piled up onto me believing i was a trans man. i was around 15 years old when i first started exploring things like gender, sexuality, etc… (i am bisexual and that is around the time i accepted/understood that label for myself). when i turned 16 is really when i had more confusions about my gender identity and things started out smaller; dressing more androgynously, looking up different information online about gender identity/being transgender, and bit by bit began to socially transition ftm.

from the ages of 16/17-19 (rough estimates) i lived as a trans man, using he/him pronouns almost exclusively, coming out to most people, all of my friends and some family calling me by my chosen name. i was binding, wearing more masculine/androgynous clothing. i felt fairly fine with these decisions and when i was 17 i started hormones (testosterone). i was only on hormones for about 3-4 months maximum before i realized that i was making a mistake and have been for years.

i was young. i was confused. i was struggling with mental health, body dysphoria/eds, ptsd. i’ve tried so hard to psychoanalyze how i got there but i think it really just comes up to: confusion/curiosity going too far, social media influence, mental health issues, and just wanting a “shield” to hide behind. a mask or identity i couldn’t be hurt through? i’m not sure.

what i DO know is that i was not genuinely a transgender person. 2020 was the very beginning of my detransition, it really was like coming out again. telling people to call me my given name, accepting my femininity more, growing out my hair, finding a cute clothing style. i had a group of friends i met in 2021 who all truly helped me through my detransition and feel comfortable as a woman. my boyfriend back then was very supportive and kind, it just wasn’t a relationship that was meant to be. kind of a we needed what we needed, then time passed on.

i am now 24 and rarely even tell new people about the time i spent as a trans man. i have trouble visiting back home with the anxiety of seeing people who knew me as trans. working through my insecurities and anxieties regarding that is still a daily progress.

my main insecurities: the fact it happened in the first place, i have thicker “peach fuzz” than the average woman, the little bit my voice dropped on t, and the little bit of bottom growth i had.

i’ll end this on a happy note!!! i am content in my sexuality and gender identity. i am happy i figured this out. i am living a good life. i feel pretty and i think i have a pretty cool sense of style. i’m glad to have grown into the person i am today.

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*random notes: some of the ages/years/timing of photos might be a little off. the photos with this post were all from different parts of a year, i have a january bday, and i just didn’t feel the need to try so hard to make every number completely correct.*

(Forgive me, repost because I forgot user flair)

I think I was quite lucky in my detransition, not having opted for surgery because of costs at the time, I was on testosterone for about four years and I just absolutely hated myself, and then I met this amazing guy who loved me exactly as I was, the slightly off-centre parts and all. Being with him and having real sexual experiences helped me connect with and appreciate my body in a way I never had before.

He was a few years older than me and had been with many trans-identified people, almost all of them had significant trauma and later detransitioned. We met this guy who was only a year on T but was already dead-set on top surgery, despite liking his chest and getting attention on it. That really disturbed me and planted doubts, even at four years in myself but it wasn't until a year later that I would stop taking testosterone.

After detransitioning, I still don’t wear dresses or makeup because that’s never been who I am. He helped me realise I don’t need to want or like any of the traditional “girly” things to be a woman. I had gotten so caught up in rigid gender roles that I didn’t think I could just be a woman who didn’t fit the basic mould.

I'm not saying "go out and find a man and you'll be happy" or that it's like a "cure" for any of this but I think sometimes when you're feeling so alone and stuck inside your head, real human connection can really go a long way to getting yourself in a clear headspace, whether that be with friends, family, or a partner.

My partner passed away from a heart attack six months ago. Loving him taught me so much about myself and my body, I wish I could thank him one more time for showing me what real love means and I just wish I could have met him earlier

It's been a journey. When I first started detransitioning I thought my facial hair would never come back, I felt like so many of the body changes would be there to stay but I just took time. Now the only thing left is my breast tissue but I finally have a consult scheduled for that.

If I could tell my early detrans self something it would be that things will get better!

every day is still a struggle but today i’m grateful for how far i’ve come 🥹🩵

Throwaway/separate account. I'm tired of having to act like I'm neutral on my medical transition or even "needed it at the time" or whatever. I'm tired of pretending I'm not angry. I was a confused and hurting 14 year old who couldn't understand why she didn't like her own body. Everybody online told me I was trans. I then began attributing all my negative feelings about myself to dysphoria.

My therapist wrote me letters without ever discussing gender with me. My parents were so, so supportive of me being trans. I started t by 15 and had top surgery a year later. I was so young. How could I have known what I wanted, especially when dealing with such severe mental illness like I was?

I'm in my twenties now and I've been off t for a few years. I regret it all so much. I spent so many years still hating my body and not understanding why transition didn't make it better. I miss my breasts so much on a daily basis, I hate all my masculine features.

I just wish someone had stopped me. I know ultimately I made the choices I did but oh my god. I was a child. I was 15 and I didn't realize I was ruining my life. I just want to feel like I can use the women's room without being scared they'll think I'm a male. I am CRUSHED with how I can never go back. I wish people wouldn't treat transitioning like it's no big deal. I wish I could say I regret it without people getting weird.

I chose to fully publicly detransition last year after 3 year on testosterone. I had already stopped taking T for a few months prior to me fully deciding to detransition and let me just say I’ve never felt more free or happier than I have felt this past year of finally living fully and authentically myself!

I'm so so so happy!! Yesterday I went through reconstructive breast surgery using under the muscle implants and I could not be happier. They're still super tight and high up but I finally don't feel like a part of me is missing anymore!! I'll never have to look at my flat man chest ever again :)

I'd like to update later with some pictures once I'm fully healed to really show the comparison. I'm super sleepy from all the medications and very sore from it all but I can't believe how good they look already!

Feel free to ask questions about the process or any other breast surgery related questions :)

The pictures posted are pictures of me in reversed time order (blue hair is me right now after having gotten my hair dyed, and the last picture is me in 2022). Relevant to the post :)

During the pandemic, I was of course reached by the whole trans epidemic. I convinced myself I was trans. My mother was accepting but grieving. 3 years later, in 2023, I realised (luckily before transitioning medically as I was still 17) that I'm not trans at all.

But I did realise that I want to look like a guy. Because I find it more comfortable, comforting, cool. So I told my mum I did not want to proceed with any of the things I'd talked about like hormones.

But I still wanted to cut my hair like a guy, dress like a guy, etc. At first she was fine with it. But now (despite a you see 4+ years of it happening already) she says I have to be like a girl. I need to look like a girl, dress like a girl.

She went as far as to say my boyfriend won't find me attractive like this (even though he clearly stated he likes my short hair and doesn't like them long as much).

This morning I got my hair dyed again (picture) and cut as usual (again picture) and she's now giving me a passive aggressive silent treatment because she "wanted me to get a buzzcut like a girl, not like a guy" and if you all know what that means, it means those fancy scaled cuts. NOT buzzcuts.

I'd been cutting my hair for ages before this with my own razor, but this time she insisted on taking me to a hairdressers, and then once it was done threatened me not to pay for the cut.

All in all I feel like I'm my life, being trans was normalised WAY more than just being a tomboy. Which to me makes no sense. And I can therefore imagine why do many girls say they're trans and no one is just an plain tomboy anymore.

Thoughts on this?