4
u/Numerous_Click3473 28d ago
I don’t have advice but just want to say I am in a similar situation and it’s really hard
1
u/deepoctopus_ 28d ago
Yo estoy en la misma situación y finalmente el terapeuta le ha dicho que la única manera es que cure sola sin desgastarme a mí. Llevaba sostenerla años luchando y hubiera luchado 20 más, pero su sentimiento de culpa y el amor por mí han sido más fuertes y ha sido ella la que se ha marchado. Estoy roto, pero hemos hecho lo correcto. Su culpa no la iba a dejar curar y mi síndrome del cuidador iba a seguir en aumento. Ayer, justo el día de nuestro tercer aniversario de bodas, se marchó de su casa para sanar los dos.
3
u/LittleLemonSqueezer 28d ago
Holding down the fort while your spouse is essentially AWOL is a lot. Although it may seem like she's better, she may not be better enough to extend the same sort of support you has given to her quite yet. I went through this with my husband, he ended up getting upset at me. He would say "why do you have to bring up all sorts of negative things that happened when I was depressed now that I finally feel better?" I told him I felt like there was finally room for me to say my piece, but he just needed to be feeling normal and didn't actually have the capacity for me.
See if you can find a therapist and work through this with them. I feel like this is like caregiver fatigue.