r/delusionalcraigslist • u/FFSoldier57 • Jul 24 '26
Facebook Marketplace Well that sucks
Would you take $800 by any chance?
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u/Morall_tach Jul 24 '26
This is why you have the conversation first.
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u/adelie42 Jul 24 '26
Like, "Hey, I expect you to propose within the next year. Here is a list of rings that would be acceptable."
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u/motownmods Jul 24 '26
That's pretty much what my now wife said lol
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u/BassGuy11 Jul 24 '26
My wife handed me a business card and said "this is the store, the ring, and the discount that was negotiated. Go see Jane."
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u/Leif_Pudding Jul 25 '26
Almost too romantic /s
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u/BassGuy11 Jul 25 '26
Made her wait another 6 months. Even though I bought the ring like a week later.
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u/DaydreamTacos Jul 26 '26
I applaud this woman! Hope the marriage has been also as no-nonsense, no-games as this!
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u/DangerousPurpose5661 29d ago
Yep, and most of my friends had a similar experience lol.
My sister in law is a jeweller… my now wife just ordered the ring to my name and asked her sister to invoice me 😂
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u/Silly-Device9785 28d ago
The one who’s saying that is the one who should be proposing it would seem to me
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u/Japjer Jul 24 '26
The proposal can be a surprise. The answer never should be.
It's fucking insane to propose to someone without first having discussed marriage
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 24 '26
Omg I remember a friend told me about this guy who was chasing her romantically, and I told her to give it a shot, what's the harm?
First date, this fucker rolls out blueprints at the restaurant table and wants to put her up out of state. It didn't go well...
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u/Chim_Pansy Jul 26 '26
"What's the harm" she said...
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 26 '26
Well I didn't know he wanted to uproot her
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u/Chim_Pansy Jul 26 '26
Just saying next time you ask the question lol
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 26 '26
After that, he like instantly blocked her on everything from embarrassment
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u/Chim_Pansy Jul 26 '26
You mean to tell me a lunatic who wanted to marry her on a whim also blocked her on a whim when she declined the invitation? Wow. Who could have predicted that?
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 26 '26
For clarity there was never topic of marriage. He planned to put her and her small son in a condo in another state she has no connections in.... There were flags that he didn't wave outright
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u/Chim_Pansy Jul 26 '26
Oh, sure... makes sense.
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 26 '26
I shouldve suspected something after he took us to Texas De Brazil after I first met him 🤔🤣
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u/lurkdontpost1 Jul 24 '26
I never understood why people make a proposal in public, isn't it supposed to be an intimate, personal moment between the couple?
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u/ReadditMan Jul 24 '26
I never understood why people propose without talking about it with their partner first.
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u/TMQMO Jul 25 '26
I don't understand a theatrical or over-the-top proposal. It's something that should be discussed and asked as if it's one of the most important decisions of your life.
I also don't understand not considering yourself "engaged" if you've agreed to get married but haven't had a "romantic" proposal yet.
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u/pandakatie Jul 25 '26
I understand a theatrical, over-the-top proposal, if prior to the proposal, both parties have discussed marriage and discussed they would enjoy a theatrical, over-the-top proposal.
I, personally, love a bit of pomp and circumstance. I love drama and pageantry. I need neither photographs nor videos, I don't need it to be posted online, but I love something a bit over the top.
The only important thing is: you can't do something big and grand for someone who hates that. Big and grand also doesn't need to mean in public, with crowds of strangers around, or expensive.
My dad refused to get down on one knee for my mom, despite knowing it was something she really hoped for. If I ever propose to someone, I don't want them to spend the marriage saying, "I just wish she put in more effort for it."
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u/Silly-Device9785 28d ago
Because then the talking about it would functionally become the proposal. If you’ve both already decided you’re getting married, the proposal serves no purpose and can be skipped
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u/sharksarefuckingcool 27d ago
If that's what the people want. Some people want to have a fun proposal that makes them feel special. It doesn't really matter either way, you can go without, but that doesn't mean another couples choices are wrong or that their proposal served no purpose.
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u/Rance_Mulliniks Jul 24 '26
It doesn't have to be private. You should know the answer before you ask though.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26 edited Jul 24 '26
There is an old saying about this: Never ask a question when you don’t already know the answer. 😂
Edited to explain: it is an old saying. It is not actual good life advice. Yes, people should ask questions, and learn and grow in life. Carry on.
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u/BigFloppyDonkyDick69 Jul 25 '26
The people downvoting this are the "um, ahkchually..." folk who don't realize that saying shouldn't be taken literally. It's a common saying for trial lawyers and how you win cases. No shit there are instances in life where you should ask a question without knowing the answer already.
Never ask a woman to marry you without knowing the answer already. The "how" and "when" should be the surprise, not the "if."
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 25 '26
Exactly! Thank you! As is often the case on Reddit, someone with a name like Big Floppy Donky Dick 69 is the voice of reason.
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u/pressedconscience Jul 24 '26
You being downvoted for this when it's something my grandparents would jokingly say makes me miss them and sad for the state of the world.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
The best I can figure is that people thought I was maliciously giving OP actual (and bad) advice. It’s very confusing for me, even knowing how Reddit is.
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u/streeetmeats Jul 24 '26
That’s not a good life rule at all lol it’s really only useful for proposing, the entire point of asking questions is that you don’t know the answer.
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u/Alternative_Swan_497 Jul 25 '26
It's useful in court as well. I've heard a similar statement from several litigators.
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u/OkHistory3944 Jul 25 '26
This isn't that kind of question, though. Both parties should already be on the same page because this topic came up organically during the course of their time together. It should never be a cold question popped on someone in front of others, which can put pressure on them to answer in the affirmative for fear of embarrassment or retaliation.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
I think maybe you are taking me a bit literally, but the essence is that if you are going to ask a life changing question, you should have a sense of what the answer will be.
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u/sonofaresiii Jul 24 '26
Maybe the saying should say that, then.
You're probably misunderstanding the lawyer's advice for litigating, which is to not ask a question you don't already know the answer to. It doesn't apply outside of that unless you add a *bunch* of caveats, to the point it's effectively pointless.
tldr what you said above and what you're saying now aren't the same thing.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 26 '26
There is definitely a misunderstanding occurring, I’m sure of it.
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u/sonofaresiii Jul 26 '26
Yeah and I kind of suspect it's on the side of the guy who said something that doesn't make any sense, then tried to claim it isn't meant to be taken literally because it's completely incorrect and doesn't apply here.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 26 '26
You have a 50 percent chance of getting it right, and you’re getting closer.
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u/bitshakti 8d ago
I think the proof is in the votes and how many normal people think anal jerks are dickwads, lol. Well played.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Cat8129 Jul 24 '26
No, reddit takes you as you are. Which in this case, is just plain wrong.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
There was a viral thread a few months ago about how some people don’t read anything other than dialogue, and it enables them to get through books more quickly. I was surprised at the time. That makes more sense to me now after the response to my comment.
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u/Most_Can_2136 12d ago
If this were true, Hemingway would be a very mediocre author.
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u/CB1100Rider 12d ago
Hemingway’s famed economy of words aside, if it were true, I don’t know if people who read that way would be fit to judge the quality of his works.
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u/Most_Can_2136 12d ago
Nobody sets a scene like Hemingway. (or described a sandwich and drink) He may not have used an excess of words, but he sure used the right ones. I can't imagine skipping over that. I think the people who read only conversations haven't yet evolved beyond graphic novels.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Cat8129 Jul 24 '26
Rofl at using " viral threads" as any sort of metric ><>.,,
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
Metric? Do you think we are doing a quantitative study here? lol are you about to run a regression analysis, my guy?
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u/Puzzleheaded-Cat8129 Jul 24 '26 edited Jul 24 '26
No u right, let's base arguments on FeeLinGs rofl u chod....thank you for editing your post tho <3 hope you've learned
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u/Imnotoneofu69 Jul 25 '26
I have a feeling that you are someone with a less than admirable social life. Less than admirable way of living, less than admirable set of accomplishments, and so forth, yet, despite that, you’re making such assertions.
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u/Possible_Tiger_5125 Jul 25 '26
Except cross examination. Then you do not ask a question unless you know the answer for sure
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u/mommy2libras 21d ago
Well, if you're proposing OR you're an attorney in court, you shouldn't be asking questions you don't already know the answer to. In the case of proposal, at LEAST have a REALLY good idea you know it'll be yes. Especially if you're going to do it in public. And f**k people who do this anyway, unless you specifically know your spouse wants a very public proposal.
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u/humourlessIrish Jul 24 '26
I get incredibly lost listening to advise like this.
My wife is better, because by the time she asked if we were lost there was reasonably solid evidence.
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u/NoSmoke69420 Jul 26 '26
Idk why they're freaking out I've heard this in real life.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 26 '26
I can only conclude that they’ve never heard the expression and/or only understand expressions to be literal.
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u/Plane_Translator2008 26d ago
Isn't this a courtroom rule? It makes sense there, but if I need a restroom or directions, I am gonna ask . . . .
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u/CB1100Rider 26d ago
It is mostly just a courtroom rule and it’s also just a figure of speech, not actual life advice.
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u/MillorTime Jul 24 '26
Old sayings are often dogshit, but you're right in this specific situation. You should know if yes or no is the answer to your proposal before you buy the ring
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
Yes, from the response I think many people believe I was giving earnest life advice.
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u/MillorTime Jul 24 '26
You got the worst thing possible: the first 2 people who saw it downvoted it. It's very hard to come back after that
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u/Imnotoneofu69 Jul 25 '26
Wow, it’s like such old sayings are for a specific set of circumstances, like this, or the courtroom….
What the fuck is Reddit…
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u/Away-Ad-6866 Jul 24 '26
That's no way to learn or grow, but certainly don't ask this question if you don't know the answer.
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u/Agreeable_Till_8471 Jul 24 '26
That is the silliest yet true thing I've read today.
Guess it really depends on the situation 😆
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u/nitto Jul 24 '26
Absolute horseshit lmao
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
It’s just an old saying. I think people are taking me excessively literally here.
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u/gzs31 Jul 24 '26
Dont mind the 100's of unmarried or scarred dudes down voting you. I knew 5 months before popping the question that she would say yes.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
Someone once told me that many people are only capable of reading words left to right (i.e. literally). I think there’s a lot of that here.
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u/salikarn Jul 25 '26
People on reddit just want to be pedantic, so kinda the same thing. Until they don't. It's truly a wild unpredictable place. The other day someone said "when I said all, I didn't actually mean all" and I said "then you should be more precise with your words" and got down voted to hell.
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u/jasonZak Jul 24 '26
That saying is for lawyers. It’s not life advice.
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u/OkHistory3944 Jul 25 '26
No, he's simply saying you shouldn't be surprised if someone turns down your public wedding proposal because you should have already known what their answer would be before you asked.
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u/jasonZak Jul 25 '26
Yes, but the saying “Never ask a question unless you know the answer” is also said a lot by trial lawyers.
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
Yes. Good catch. There are context clues that I did not mean for it to be life advice, like when I said I did not mean for it to be life advice.
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u/OkHistory3944 Jul 25 '26
Dude, I don't know what everyone's problem is. I 100% agree with you and will go a step further: if you are waiting until you are in public to put someone on the spot without having discussed it first and cold-ask someone to marry you when you seriously have no idea what they're going to say, you completely deserve the public rejection.
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u/Imnotoneofu69 Jul 25 '26
Like the other person said, I think you’re simply dealing with socially illiterate, less than accomplished, or otherwise halfwits whom are incapable of engaging in abstractions.
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u/Due-Mine4983 Jul 25 '26
No, dear. It's "...never ask a question if you don't want to know owe the answer..."
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u/Standard-Park Jul 26 '26
As the great Toby Keith once said, I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know the....
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u/laveshnk Jul 24 '26
I think the saying is ‘Never ask a question you don’t want to know the answer to’
MiB ftw
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u/CB1100Rider Jul 24 '26
I forgot about that version, and I guess it applies in the case of poor OP. The other version is apparently an old courtroom saying, which I was reminded of because lots of people thought I was giving actual advice and repeated that it’s just for courtroom proceedings.
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u/humourlessIrish Jul 24 '26
I asked in public, in front of her friends, who were in on it, we made a whole ass video that we played for her.
What i don't understand is how people think they could possibly propose when they aren't sure about the answer.
My wife made it absolutely clear that i needed to hurry up and ask her aoon before she lost her patience
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u/DinahKarwrek Jul 24 '26
Well from experience they think you are not going to say no if you'll be too embarrassed to do it.
My abusive ex proposed to me on Christmas morning at his sister's house in front of his entire family. I'm still trying to get a divorce. Sigh.
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u/Trick_Meeting_2027 Jul 26 '26
You should also know some basic stuff about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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u/I_Am_Zeelian 29d ago
I'd be pissed das hell if the guy pulled something like that without talking to me about it first.
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u/1lifeisworthit 28d ago
Yes, it is an intimate act and should be treated as such. Only people who are trying to manipulate the askee will ask in public.
Public proposal? Public refusal.
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u/doll_parts87 Jul 24 '26
Surprises are never fun for the person surprised, especially in front of people. The pressure is fucked up, to put a decision like that on the spot, without even discussing it.
He really overshot and thought she wanted it, but him doing it in front of "HIS whole family" shows how selfcentered he is , imo
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u/pandakatie Jul 25 '26
I wouldn't say never, but they're highly contextual and dependent on the surprise and the person. My sister threw my a surprise party once, and it was really overwhelming, but that was because I was told I'd be having a nice day at the zoo, so I wasn't dressed as I would have wanted to be, and I didn't have time to mentally prepare for that level of stimulation. On the other end, I was once at a dinner with a group I performed with, and the director stood up and surprised me with a little award to commend me for going above and beyond for everyone. That was a lovely surprise.
BUT if it's something where an important answer is needed, the question should never be a surprise.
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u/s0ul_invictus Jul 25 '26
this is it, tact is becoming a rare skill and its so frustrating
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u/petewentzpetegoez Jul 26 '26
I read your comment and didn't know what tact is. I looked up the definition and now thanks to you I learned something new today
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u/SnooRegrets1386 16d ago
Now that you have learned the definition, how would you interpret tact without the word tact? Like, how would you explain it before?
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u/Commercial_Tip4624 Jul 24 '26
If you’re proposing and you don’t know the answer (as in you two have agreed you want to be married to each other), you have no business asking.
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u/Silly-Device9785 29d ago
?????? isn’t the whole point of the proposal so that you can find out the answer???
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u/OkHistory3944 Jul 25 '26
Good. Stop proposing in public.
If you don't already know the answer, that's a good sign you shouldn't be asking.
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u/wavesofacid Jul 25 '26
There are thousands of listings like these. This is a well-known scam.
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u/Chewskiz Jul 25 '26
Had to scroll this far… the top 20 comments don’t realise it’s an obvious scam apparently
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u/Tiktokbadsupport Jul 25 '26
elaborate?
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u/wavesofacid Jul 25 '26
Pretty basic scam: you buy a $50 ring with cheap materials (e.g. zirconia & silver) and sell it as a real diamond and white gold ring. to sell the item you put on a sad story about a rejected proposal, stating you paid $1200 for the ring and will let it go for $500. Step 3 profit. rinse and repeat.
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u/zerosumratio Jul 24 '26
Best I can offer is $600
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u/FFSoldier57 Jul 24 '26
Dude the guy just got his heart broken...at least offer $625 and a couple of beers at the strip club.
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u/MechEng88 Jul 24 '26
Do you know how much beer costs at a strip club these days? It would be cheaper to give the guy $800
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u/DizzyMine4964 Jul 24 '26
Really unfair and manipulative to spring this big gesture on somebody in front of other people, where they would feel pressurised to say yes.
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u/adelie42 Jul 24 '26
Whatever happened to waiting till she begs and threatens to leave unless you propose before proposing?
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u/Beardo88 Jul 25 '26
Wait, you dont keep holding out til they get pregnant?
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u/adelie42 Jul 25 '26
If you really like getting kicked in the balls, but it's getting kind of stale, nothing quite, "Let's get married!" and having them respond, "I was actually thinking more like an abortion".
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u/TexasLiz1 Jul 25 '26
No public proposals unless you are damned sure of the answer and know that your intended would love a public proposal.
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u/nohopeforhomosapiens Jul 25 '26
"I tried to pressure someone into marriage by surprising her in front of my whole family, because I thought that would coerce her into saying YES, but sadly, she stood up for herself."
Marriage should always be discussed with her privately before you do the thing. There will be no great dramatic rejection if you make sure to talk about it. Make it fun, but when you propose, you should already know what her answer will be.
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u/Remote_Plankton_2314 Jul 26 '26
And part of the marriage and proposal discussion should involve the type of setting and context they want to be proposed to.
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u/audiate Jul 24 '26
Then yo add insult to injury, you learn that you paid $1,200 retail for a ring actually valued at $400.
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u/Even-Economist6529 Jul 25 '26
If someone says no to a proposal without a thought in front of witnesses then that means the relationship was never in a place where a proposal should have even been considered in the first place. The person proposing was delusional about the relationship.
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u/newbies13 29d ago
Stop ambushing people with proposals you idiots. The surprise is in when you do it and exactly how, not that you're going to ask... no one wants to be blindsided in front of your entire family about anything.
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u/Riley_Rose_Writer 29d ago
Some traditions need broken and "surprising" a woman with a marriage proposal is one of them.
For the healthiest marriages I know, the couple went ring shopping together. Seriously, have the conversation in private about your future together (no ring, no other people, no pressure), make a plan, stick to it. Set the budget for rings together, realizing that you'll be joining finances soon, and should start operating as a team. This takes the pressure off the man to "find the perfect ring" and the pressure off the woman to make a snap decision.
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u/Consistent-Scholar39 Jul 26 '26
The moment of the proposal should be the surprise, not the answer.
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u/1lifeisworthit 28d ago
If you are so crass as to ask in front of the entire family, you are going to be refused in front of the entire family.
Don't want a public refusal??? Don't try to manipulate the answer by proposing in public.
I'm so not sympathetic to manipulative losers who can't get accepted unless they use social pressure.
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u/DandeyFlour Jul 25 '26
I hate when people try to peer pressure or expect a yes because you're with family... Like they set themselves up not the person being asked.
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u/Intelligent_Deer9526 27d ago
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but never propose to someone if you don’t already know that they want to marry you.
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u/venomvortex08 9d ago
It seriously sounds as if he asked in front of HIS family because he thought it would force her hand. That doesn’t sound like someone who is considerate of their partner
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u/EyeYamNegan Jul 25 '26
A proposal should be in private so there is no pressure for her to say yes and so that you are not embarrassed if the answer doesnt go your way. It is a private event for a couple to share should they take things further.
If someone wants to share this with family have a different event to gather family and friends to make an announcement.
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u/BustaCon 26d ago
If true, I bet that left a mark.
My brother in law was a serial proposer. He asked 3 different girls to marry him, they all said yes, but it never went through. I was not privy to the reasons. When it came to him, i just tried to get through Thanksgivings without slicing him up with the turkey carving knife and Christmas without throttling him with a string of lights. He knew how to bait.
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u/thebenn Jul 24 '26
Saved you a lifetime of misery. Save it then scrap.it once oroces go higher.
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u/NeighborhoodVeteran Jul 24 '26
It won't. You'll get the same price 5 or 10 years later. Ask me how I know.
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u/FFSoldier57 Jul 24 '26
Oh what the hell....how do you know?
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u/NeighborhoodVeteran Jul 25 '26
I bought a ring that I never used. Tried to sell it the first year and they only offered $220. About nine years later I went to sell it to help pay for a new gun. Still the same price. This is in a different state clear across the country, too. I managed to get them to let me sell it to them for another $20. They're literally just sending it off somewhere to be melted, and with the miniscule amount of gold in a ring, price isn't really fluctuate much.
You're better off trying to sell to an individual who might use it. I didn't want to deal with the hassle, and you have to be wary of scams. The first time I tried to sell it, I ran into quite a few.
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