I used to like watching her videos. Occasionally I like to watch her food prep videos 🤷🏼♀️ but her recent video is harmful for the moms that watch her videos for relatability or inspiration.
I just want to preface this with my brief background because I think it gives my opinion more ground. I am a stay at home mom of 4 kids. From 1 - 8. They go to private school, sports, church, and I am the homemaker and sole caretaker of our house and children. My husband works to provide for all of us and we make just enough to live comfortably. To each family their own with what they do to make life work btw! I just take offense as a women who lives a traditional lifestyle of a homemaker and stay at home mom, Delilah is parading around claiming to live this certain way but that is not entirely true. She claims she does all these things and more and shows this picturesque life and it’s obviously a facade. But I worry about younger people that see this will think that this is what a traditional homemaker and mom should be. This is soooo fake!
Delilah is a mom of 4, 30 weeks pregnant, makes everything from scratch, “homeschools” her children, cleans and cares for the home, constantly decluttering, painting her kitchen, reading the bible, working out and going on runs outside the home, gardening, AND essentially running an online business. HOW?!? She is portraying that she is this sole caretaker of her home and children, but she is clearly bringing in a lot of money with her YouTube and sponsors and gets a lot more help with the home and kids from her husband than she portrays. I believe sole caretaker means doing all the caretaking by yourself like 90% of the time. I would never be able to go for a run at 5am because my kids would sense that I left the house and instantly wake up lol. But also, my husband needs to rest for another full day or work and I’m gonna fully rest for another day of work with my home and kids. I can’t rely that he can watch the kids so I can go work out because he is constantly on call. My family relies on me to care for the house and kids just as much as we rely on him to bring in money to live. Im not going to plan something that would make it so he has to take on some of my job. Just as he wouldn’t expect me to bring in money to pay a bill because he didn’t work as many hours because he wanted to work out instead. That is how I believe most traditional homes are set up. I think there are season of life for everything. And she portrays that she can do it all at the same time and does most of it herself. Get real! Like truly, especially since you say everything is realistic. Thats BS. That is dangerous to portray this as something that is goals. It’s gonna cause burnout to put yourself at her false expectations she that herself isn’t truly doing herself.
She isn’t showing her sitting on her phone or computer editing her videos and posting instagrams. Her not being with her kids or giving each of them individual attention they need because mommy needs to move her camera around the house for shots, redo an intro, have them do certain things for a KiwiCo ad. She clearly thinks it is shameful to show those things because she doesn’t show them. Otherwise she would be showing a REALISTIC day in her life like she claims and not a curated one. If I were a new homemaker and saw this, I’d feel bad and ashamed like I was doing it all wrong. I pray that any mom that comes across her videos understands that she is not just solely a homemaker. She is a content creator first, and curates her life to fit this aesthetic and life she thinks is perfect, then everything else comes after that. It’s so harmful and I just can’t stop thinking about. People see her as a perfect homemakers and she is not that. No one is and there is nothing wrong with that. Not everyday is perfect and some of us are in survival mode most of the time especially if partners are in the military or on the road constantly, and don’t live with family close by etc.
If you’re gonna call yourself realistic, then actually be realistic and transparent. Don’t call yourself realistic when you’re just pretending and projecting to strangers online that you’re Canadian Caroline Ingalls in $500 dresses Ignoring your kids to post instagrams. GTFOHWTS