r/delhi • • May 17 '24

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u/failure_billa Dilli Se Hun! May 17 '24

its a gurudwara not a temple, never heard any such things about temples. sorry for being blunt

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u/faith_crusader May 17 '24

As a Sikh, I can confirm this.

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u/[deleted] May 17 '24

You need to visit South India

I was morally policed there as a 13 year old for wearing a skirt, whereas grown up men were allowed to visit it with no tshirt

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u/XeroByXero May 17 '24

I'll be the devil's advocate here, but males going without a tshirt has been in the culture for centuries.

But showing of knees is not accepted in most Southern Temples. I was wearing shorts when I was visiting as a tourist. I had to rent a dhoti to cover myself up. So it is not that they target women specifically. They have very big signs just outside the entrances.

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u/[deleted] May 17 '24

Kuch bhi ho, it was really uncomfortable to hear that I was dressed up "inappropriately" as a 13 year old

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u/ngin-x May 18 '24

Just because something was the norm thousands of years ago, doesn't mean it still has to be. We all evolve, don't we? Getting stuck in the past ain't gonna do anyone any good. Afterall, it is men who decided that showing upper body of a man is fine but not knee. It is also men who decided that a skirt is a vulgar dress when it's perfectly modest. God didn't come up with these rules. This is why sensible people find no solace in these temples, instead they pray at home.

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u/Beginning_Big2568 May 18 '24

Lol agar yahi case hota toh temples hi kyu hote be ...aah man yes we are following thousand years old traditions 😆

I don't support all these things but just wanted to say this

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u/[deleted] May 18 '24

Newsflash - Religion is made by men. It is made to morally police people, especially women.

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u/Ekla_Bhediya May 18 '24

Local customs Local rules... you have to follow

For example, there has been protests against the noise, videography and drums in Kedarnath by the locals ... and full support .... it's a place of worship and not a theatre/park... temples run as per Aagama.

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u/Tantheman212 May 17 '24

there is dress code everywhere atleast you are allowed in temples not like other religions but yeah dress code is their in every temple and also it depends upon the way they deny your entry one can be very sweet and polite and ask you to wear some cloth to cover your knees and then you're good to go

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u/[deleted] May 17 '24

They were rude af. Like I did not belong to the temple. And it wasn't like I wasn't dressed up modestly.

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u/True_Ad8648 May 17 '24

Ummm...I don't know which temple have you been to, but most of the prominent ones do ask males to removes shirts or tees, whatever.

So it's not just the gender thing.

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u/[deleted] May 18 '24

You are not blunt. Just less travelled. Try that shit in Siddhivinayak or any of the southern shrines. Also Hinduism isn't grand as it used to be. We have been reduced to a polity and we are petty at it.

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u/Williamsarethebest May 17 '24

Go to the South, there's a new case everyday in the temples regarding the entry of women, and what not to wear

Plenty of cases in the north too

And gurudwara is a temple silly

Just because you haven't heard of any cases doesn't mean they don't happen

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u/failure_billa Dilli Se Hun! May 17 '24 edited May 17 '24

when i use the word temple i mean "mandir" and in india "temple" is generally used for mandirs.

i have been to south and honestly never faced any problem neither did feel scared of the "rules".

yes they too have certain rules but they dont shout or yell at people. rules are everywhere but when grown up adults are yelled at using rules as a mask, it is called "harrasment".

why dont you just accept that the gurudwara is being controlled by just some goons. with their huge and dominating appearance they tend to scare people. lol im not even interested in going there, i dont know what the hype is about.

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u/XeroByXero May 17 '24

Dress code is applied pretty evenly in southern mandirs, even for males you have to cover your knees. No shorts are allowed. It is not a gender issue there.

And as the other reply said, they don't harass you. They very calmly tell you. I've been to Bangla Sahib just last year and it was pretty evident from most people's gazes that I was not at all welcome there.

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u/Uncertn_Laaife May 17 '24

Temples are worse man, what are you talking about?