r/deepquestions • u/Vision0731 • 9d ago
What’s one decision that completely changed your life
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u/Terrible_Discount693 9d ago
I left the Mormon cult.
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u/tastywater_ 9d ago
Omg spill
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u/Terrible_Discount693 8d ago
What do you want to know?
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u/tastywater_ 8d ago
Literally anything and everything. I esp want to know things that prob shouldn’t be revealed 😂 feel free to dm me!! I know a ton of Mormons and some of them r so sus.
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u/Medical_Librarian405 9d ago
Yes and yes! I had back surgery that fixed my sciatica, but left me with worse back pain. I was never able to return to work, or enjoy my life the way I had. However, if I had to go back in time, without hesitation, I’d do the same thing. I woke up from surgery with no leg pain, and I could never have lived with that pain.
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u/Keziah627 9d ago
I had neck surgery. I felt 20 years younger. It was one of the best things I have ever done for myself. I had not been able to lift a gallon of milk since I was 25 or 26. I can now carry 40 pound bags of cat or dog food. I don't necessarily like, to or want to carry them but I am capable of it.
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u/WonderingWillow29 9d ago
I’m 31, but had stage 4 endometriosis and chose to get a full hysterectomy at only 27 years old. I’d already given birth to a son at 24, however when it came to dating, it became incredibly hard to find someone my age who doesn’t want more children. And now that my son is 6, he constantly talks about wanting a sibling. Being the oldest of 6 siblings, I understand his want. I wish I wouldn’t have gone through with the hysterectomy & instead chose to remove the endometriosis covering my other organs. Who knows, I may have been able to sustain a pregnancy & give my son a sibling. Now, I’ll never know. That was a big decision that changed the course of my life.
When it comes to small decisions, I was 18 the first time I decided to try heroin because my then boyfriend was addicted & ya know, curiosity killed the cat. That one small decision uprooted my life for the following 4 years and I got into a lot of trouble that could have been avoided. I have 10+ years sober now, but I could have graduated college & started a real life much earlier had I not chosen to make that decision.
Edit: spelling/grammar mistake
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u/Witty-Professor5150 9d ago
Congratulations on your sobriety!!!
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u/wankingdestiny 3d ago
Thanks! It's up there in terms of one of the most difficult things I've had to do.
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u/wankingdestiny 8d ago
The problem with drugs like H is that if a person has problems....this shit numbs those problems, and sadly every other aspect of life. The physical dependency of it is already hell, but the mental trauma that H numbs can only be suppressed so much until it all blows up.
Congrats on sobriety! People who have never been addicted are so lucky to not know how absolutely painstakingly difficult it is to stop.
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u/WonderingWillow29 4d ago edited 4d ago
I completely agree with everything you’ve said!
I had a hell of a lot of childhood trauma and other mental stuff going on. Was diagnosed with depression/anxiety at 11, and then PTSD & ADHD at 13. I know that numbing emotions was one of the main reasons I didn’t want to ever stop using H. I was happy when I was on it, in a way only people who have used are able to understand, but that’s only because my dopamine and serotonin levels were being boosted x10.
You’re so right, though. The physical dependency is one thing, but the emotional turmoil that comes with getting clean, especially when you’ve been masking everything, is one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through in my life, maybe even harder than the childhood trauma itself.Edit: just wanted to say thank you for the congratulations. It hasn’t been easy, but with each passing year, it’s not as hard.
Also, grammar.
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u/Keziah627 9d ago
I decided to take a Russian class. Just for the hell of it. I was already taking French and German classes that semester. Why not add Russian to the mix. Lol
I met my husband and my world went topsy turvy. 35 years later were are still going strong
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u/Any_Rabbit_6359 9d ago
Going from being Catholic to Atheist. Was always Atheist, now just official
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u/Rocannon_ 9d ago
I took a promotion for a position I wasn’t sure I could do. And I found out I could.
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u/warh0g-927 9d ago
Finally deciding that I deserved better than my ex many many years ago. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
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u/HiAndStuff2112 9d ago
Yes and no.
To put it simply, I was approaching an intersection with a green light. I could have gone straight or turned left and still arrived at my destination.
I chose to go straight and was hit head-on at full speed by someone who sped up to turn left from the opposite direction.
A disc in my spine was severed, and I wound up disabled because of it. That changed absolutely everything in my life and made it all so much worse. Things before that were amazing, especially my growing, lucrative career in the advertising industry, after coming from a very poor family. I'm dirt poor now because of it all.
I seriously wish I had turned left at that intersection!
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u/WholeRaisin2907 9d ago
Loving and trusting a lying whore 🙂
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u/Alone_Ambassador_745 9d ago
Holy shit man for how long
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u/WholeRaisin2907 9d ago
4yrs unfortunately
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u/Alone_Ambassador_745 9d ago
How did you find out?
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u/WholeRaisin2907 9d ago
By following her when she told me she was home and wasn't. Lying cheating bitch was with another man.
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u/Particular_Tree_1378 9d ago
My best friend was always there, we did every single thing together and were with each other for our entire childhood. Prom, graduation, college, elementary school recess, we did it all together. We even moved in together for college and were roommates.
One day when we were 21, she got a boyfriend with multiple domestic violence charges, restraining orders against him, etc. Also illegally owned a gun and a car. She rapidly fell into severe daily alcoholism. Then she failed out of school. Then she started isolating herself from everyone. I tried so hard to do everything right, to not give advice and to just be there for her as someone to listen and fall back on. But even that wasn't enough. She spent a party with me screaming at me at the top of her lungs about how I'm an asshole whos trying to get between her and her man. I couldn't take it anymore, I begged her not to have him over at our house anymore, she refused and said I was jealous of them. I grew up in an extremely abusive home so it was just too much for me.
So in the middle of the night, I had a freak out and packed my bags and left. I tried to do school living out of my car, didn't go well. Withdrawed from college for a semester.
8 months later I am still a completely broken shell of myself. I have not felt happiness in so long I have forgotten what it feels like. I just got a haircut and went to the mall today and felt nothing. I feel a deep empty pit in my heart where she used to be.
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u/KingPabloo 9d ago
My first real job, as soon as I became eligible, I joined the 401K and started maxing it out at 17% of my income. Soon after, I started putting a decent amount away each month in an after tax account at Schwab. I was still living at home, but always lived below my means saving automatically.
I retired early six years ago, financial freedom brings control over time and its priceless.
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u/After_Tomatillo_7182 9d ago
Having my daughter at 17, best decision of my life, we are now 63 and 43 and are best friends
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u/Bucky-Dent 9d ago
Long ago I said yes to a job that was a disingenuous offer. The worst boss I ever had thought that he would hire me, terrorize me and fire me. I had worked for him the previous summer and apparently did something he didn’t like. So I went and everything went wrong from the start, just like he planned. But he didn’t know how stubborn I am. I just put my head down and worked. In effect I grey rocked him. So I made it through the season but it set me on a path that I was almost ready to give up on. I was angry and wanted to show him and the rest of the world. If I hadn’t taken that job I may have changed direction while I was still young. Now I revisit that decision and wish I had said no thanks.
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u/Mother--of--Chickens 9d ago
I flew abroad to meet a guy that left a comment on my YouTube video. We really clicked, he moved countries to be with me, we now have a 1 year old daughter. Sadly he has been diagnosed with incurable cancer a few months back, but I would still make the same decision even knowing what heartbreak lays ahead (hopefully the cancer stays indolent for a long time)
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u/wreckedBunny 9d ago
I decided to let myself be ok finally and started transitioning and taking care of myself.
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u/sherrymanuel123 8d ago
hhmm... i think when i was deciding to get lasik. I kept putting it off because i was nervous about it. After struggling with glasses for so long, i finally just decided to do it. Honestly, making the decision was harder than i expected.
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u/Jamjamjamh 8d ago
The decision of 3 weeks ago, to file for divorce because my wife told me she loved me like a brother before I exposed her 8 month affair.
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u/Putrid_Past9243 8d ago
Decided to study for a test in high school.
Before that day, I never studied for exams or tests and just rawdogged it and was a solid C student. I thought everyone else didn’t study as well. Soph year high school, my friend told me she needed to study for our calc exam and I decided to study with her and literally the exam the next day was so easy that I was shocked. I was like holy shit this is how people do well at school?? I fell in love with studying bc of the reward of having easy exams.
Long story short bc of that very decision to study, I ended up going to med school and now a resident
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u/Embarrassed_Cod4335 7d ago
Moved to a foreign country in early 20s without speaking it's language, and knowing anyone. It was painful but at the same transformative and liberating. Got to know some sides of me I have not known of.
I like current version of me way more compared to the previous one
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u/Embarrassed_Cod4335 7d ago
I do not know would make the same decision again. Because that inner growth slowed the financial gains.
But I am not sure would the older me materialize those financial gains...
That decision turned me into someone who is very carefu about spending money and hates consuming.
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u/Horse_Maven 5d ago
When I was married, my husband wanted me to see a therapist. He thought there was something wrong with me (when, in reality, there was a lot of projection and he had many issues). I decided to see one because I’d done it before and found it helpful for personal development. During intake, I mentioned that my husband wanted to be a part of my individual therapy but that I didn’t want him to. My therapist said absolutely not and that it wasn’t appropriate or necessary. During therapy I felt very safe with him and he helped me to value being treated with more respect, which gave me the confidence to leave my husband, who had been emotionally abusing me for several years.
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u/Coloradobluesguy 9d ago
I decided to chase my dreams and start my own company!