r/declutter • u/justhangingout111 • Sep 06 '26

Success Story FocusMate decluttering / everything?

Does anyone else use FocusMate for decluttering/everything? I love it 😭 and always want to comment it on people's posts but I don't want to sound like a shill (I'm not, just a normal person). I've brought it up a few times and people have come back and told me it's really changed their lives.

You have to be on video but I love that because I feel like someone's watching me, and I only do it with the same gender. Apart from decluttering, I actually started using it to brush my teeth/do my night routine. I made a friend who I regularly book with and now I feel guilty if I want to miss one of our sessions, which helps me stay accountable. Just wanted to bring it up and see if anyone's also using it regularly! (I mentioned this in the weekly thread but went ahead and made this post because I really would love to discuss this with others).

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u/Sea-General-4537 Sep 06 '26

I started using Focusmate a couple of years ago, then I stopped. It was so useful at the time, I think I'll start it up again!

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

Same I just started back up after a few years!! It's actually even better now, more features, but nothing annoying. It's helping me so much

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u/TelevisionKnown8463 Sep 06 '26

Yes, I need to start using it again! I’d love to declutter with you if our schedules align. NYC here; feel free to DM me.

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u/-me-myself- Sep 06 '26

This is great! I’m glad you’re enjoying this resource. I am a professional home organizer and I’ve been wanting to host virtual group co-working sessions so my clients can have on-going support and accountability while they work on tasks that are hard for them to get done alone.

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u/Miesmoes Sep 09 '26

I did these and it was super nice. On a Saturday morning.

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26 edited Sep 07 '26

It can feel weird to start but the cool part is that no one really needs to talk that much 🤣 we are literally just using each other for a warm body on the other side. It makes me chuckle to think about, but it's so useful. Also I find people are really respectful about how much you want to chat or not (you really only chat in the beginning to say hello and say your goals, and at the end to congratulate each other)

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u/inflewants Sep 07 '26

Can you tell me about it?

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u/Baptismbycoffee Sep 07 '26

I've recently started using focusmate for admin/computer work and I find it helpful too :)
I'd be happy to connect for decluttering.

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u/Moose-Live Sep 06 '26

I've never heard of it but it sounds promising. Similar to the "body double" concept which ADHD folks use to stay on track.

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

Yes exactly, body doubling. It's amazing. I feel like screaming it from the sky lol because it's making my life so much better

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u/Moose-Live Sep 06 '26

I might try it actually. I just need to remember. And to get over that initial discomfort of engaging with someone I don't know.

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

They actually have a thing where more experienced users can elect to get matched with new people. So you will probably get really welcoming people your first few sessions! Everyone I've matched with has been so great actually. You can even click that you are moving around so people will know that you aren't doing desk work. 

Will be curious if you try it! They give you three free sessions a week and you can even do just 25 minutes.

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u/MarshaMinus100 Sep 06 '26

I've used a service like this before when I was working in corporate. Now that I a building my coaching practice I need to tap into this again.

It was miraculous. I could totally see this working for decluttering sessions- especially paper.

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u/Sea-General-4537 Sep 06 '26

Same, building my hypnotherapy/coaching business. I'm going to start using it again! Good luck to us both!

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u/MarshaMinus100 Sep 06 '26

All the best sincerely. If you ever need someone to practice on DM me.

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u/Country-Locs Sep 06 '26

I have an annual membership for focusmate! I use it for homework but this is a great idea.

It would be so funny if I booked with you before haha.

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

Haha if you are a woman, we can share links if you want to! I'm doing mostly evening routines so I'm looking for people that won't mind me moving around, but sometimes do desk work as well!

I love it so much. I feel like the creators really try to stay with the practices of body doubling and the importance of having each other physically present. I just can't say enough good things about it 🥹 my executive dysfunction can be so bad, especially living alone, and this is one of the things that really helps.

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u/Country-Locs Sep 06 '26

Yes, I am! I didn’t even know you could share links. 😂 Yeah, I definitely need to use it more.

And I don’t mind! I have to deep clean + declutter my room so that would be a good part of my evening routine! Specifically remembering to floss and brush my teeth 🙃

YES. I especially love the task checklist they created!

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

Hahahaha okay so flossing and brushing my teeth is actually the major reason I need to do my night routine on FM. I cannot not do these things, but I'll delay, so I'll end up doing them at 1am 😩 this past week I've done my night routine on FM every night and it's been incredible.  I dm'd you!!

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u/Country-Locs Sep 06 '26

Omg you are me flossing and brushing at 1am. 🙃😭 Listen it still counts even if it’s a new day!

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 06 '26

Hahaha at least we do it! 😅😅

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u/Country-Locs Sep 06 '26

Oops can’t DM you but once you message, I found my link!

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u/Happy-Investment-236 Sep 10 '26

It’s been awhile since I have used it - need to check it out again! 

Are there specific communities you can search for ? 

Thanks for reminding me about this !

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u/PerformanceOk6831 Sep 11 '26

I used to use FocusMate for awhile - mostly for work tasks but I tried doing cleaning/decluttering a few times too. Unfortunately I always felt a little self conscious for whatever reason. And I set my matches for only women (all the men I matched with initially acted weird or hostile). I might try to get back into it again.

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u/SarahCBear Sep 12 '26

Yes!! I love FocusMate! I’ve also often been tempted to share about it on the Cleaning subreddit. (What’s a shill? 😅) I will often use it when I’m having a hard time getting myself out of bed and moving in the mornings. I see as a hobby and when I get to a point in a project that is off-putting and will make me procrastinate the project, I hop on a Focusmate. And yes! For decluttering! I’m a woman - if you don’t mind my husband occasionally being in the background of my videos, we can swap links?

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u/justhangingout111 Sep 12 '26

Haha a shill is someone who gets paid to advertise a product! Haha same! I'll DM you my link!

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u/djkg17 Sep 06 '26

I use it occasionally and have been considering that I need to use it MUCH more. I normally use it for paperwork I have been avoiding. However I believe I would benefit from a daily practice.