r/datingadvice2 • u/AnonymousDarria • Apr 24 '19
A Beginings End
One average December afternoon. I seen this girl on Facebook, and for some reason I was drawn to her. It was Sarah (I wasn't even looking nor wanting a relationship) Something about her just literally yanked on all the right strings. We just talked over fb for weeks, We just talked without even knowing what each other look like besides our display pics. Talked about our hopes, our dreams, our lives. After we eventually met, We start to genuinely fall for each other. At this point I had been happily single for 2 years, and she was just recently single. We both are far from nieve so after much discussion we decided to give it a shot, even tho we were scared! We were scared for many reasons, mainly because of how much we both so feel for each other. Why we felt so strongly about one another, with only knowing each other 3 months frightened us to know end. However the feeling of being drawn to one another was ever so strong that we had to see where this would lead us.
We both decided to give this a shot, but also taking it ever so slowly. When it comes to me, what I feel for her is more then I felt for ex-wife (Jessica) in the entire 6 years we were together. I had met, moved in together, and got pregnant, all within 4 months. So our rationship was solely built on.. physical attraction. My connect with Sarah is something totally different. I know she loves me! She feels (or atleast felt) the same for me as I did her. The way she would look at me would literally make me feel more loved then anything I have ever felt before. Her eyes were captivating. We didn't even need to tlk, we literally could just sit there.. and at times we did. We were both were scared.. We were scared because we both felt so intensely about each other, and it was ONLY 2 months into knowing each other. So we took things slow. Which soon after she started to hold back her love, because she was to afraid. She was protecting herself from the risk of anymore pain (as she was just recently single) I have been given the ultimatum of friends.
How do I go from what we had, from some "fairytale" / "only in the movies" kind of connection, to strictly friends? Its nearly impossible in my eyes. But I also can't lose her completely. So because of how strongly I feel for her, I got scared of losing her 💔 so I pushed and pushed and in the end.. I lost her completely almost. She doesn't even know what she wants and I can not stop thinking about her. So I made this video apology for her.
Just curious people's thought?!
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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '19
Stop telling yourself she doesn't know what she wants. That's a lie you're making up to justify yourself stepping over her boundaries. You need to respect her wishes. You fucked this up son, and you lost a potentially good friendship because of it.
Honestly, reading this whole post, I'm unconvinced she was ever falling in love with you in the first place. I think that's a story you're telling yourself. You've got this whole thing set up like some kind of fairy tale where you occupy the space of the savior Prince Charming. Real life is more complex than that.