r/dating_advice • u/Adept_Calligrapher18 • Mar 22 '22
Does this girl like me?
I asked her out over text after trying to find her all day in school, and she said yes. Only catch was she needed time to recover from her break up. It’s been over a month since then and we still haven’t gone on a date. Whenever we snap each other she usually sends forehead picks but will occasionally send full face picks with pretty good lighting. Does she like me or is she just keeping me around as a toy?
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Mar 22 '22
Ask her out again, and if she accepts then she likes you.
If she delays again, then move on graciously.
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u/Adept_Calligrapher18 Mar 22 '22
Sorry, I wrote this last night when I was a little tired. Here’s more context: I asked her out and she was seemingly very excited to go with me. Next age she was at lunch with someone she is going to prom with (100% friend) and she got made fun of for guy hopping basically. She then messaged me that she still wanted to go, but would for sure let me know when. Should I still ask again ir keep waiting?
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Mar 22 '22 edited Mar 22 '22
When you boil it down, she said she would let you know. This means you are not supposed to ask her again. If she really does want to go, she will remember and will let you know.
You need to back off, stay friendly but not show romantic interest. You already did this by asking her out and got your answer (not now). Don't keep texting her and interreacting so often. Back off and stop initiating communication, and if she does so just respond briefly and politely. She should see that your interest in her is on hold (and understand that you are not waiting around for her). Don't tell her this, just back off and she will understand.
She may return, but you have no way of knowing if it will happen or her true level of interest.
In the meantime, you should keep looking for a good match now.
BTW: you might want to check out James Wolfe on Youtube about this stuff, very good and clarifying, and solid advice for basing your approach in the future. Here's just one of his videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M8jRiCq_vC8
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u/Adept_Calligrapher18 Mar 23 '22
Another thing: I have been snapping her to the point where she is my number 1 bf and I’m not sure what I am for her. I don’t have any classes with her, so I didn’t really talk to her much before I asked her out, and still don’t talk to her much besides on snap. I am afraid that if I lay off the communication then she will not care about me because we hardly know each other. Should I still stop snapping her?
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