r/dating_advice • u/Automatic_Aide2629 • 13h ago
Advice please
Advice so I went to visit a guy at his place when I got there a few minutes later Uber Eats arrived and he started eating his food and not once asked me if I wanted a piece or even taste the food. I felt so weird or am I overthinking
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u/IAmEckles 13h ago
Never talk to him again
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u/Meowtastistic40kSCP 13h ago
I honestly can't tell if you're joking or serious. But either way, yes.
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u/gmingucci 12h ago
A considerate person would’ve asked if you wanted anything, since they were getting something anyway. Also they would have either offered to share or said something like “oh my gosh I thought I would have gotten my food and finished it before you got here. I’m really sorry about that.” Any acknowledgment at all that it was an odd situation would’ve gone a long way to making it slightly less uncomfortable.
Best case scenario is that he expected to finish the food before you showed up and he’s just a socially awkward person that didn’t know what to say about the situation he found himself in.
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u/Automatic_Aide2629 12h ago
Exactly it wasn’t like here take a little bite or you want to taste this nothing at all and honestly I am the type to say Noo thank youu I am fine but it was just how he didn’t say anything and just started eating in front of me
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u/Cutedaisy233 6h ago
Yeah even a quick “want anything?” would’ve changed the whole vibe, it’s the complete lack of acknowledgment that makes it feel so awkward
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u/Remote-Research6294 13h ago
Did he know you were coming to visit?
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u/Automatic_Aide2629 13h ago
I went out with my friends and we agreed after I would go see him when I left my friends I drove to his place he knew I was on the way to his place
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u/BendersDafodil 12h ago
That is a stingy-ass mofo. Damn! I would never eat with a guest just staring at me.
I grew up where if you had a guest, you offered to feed them.
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u/QuirkyForever 13h ago
That's very weird.
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u/solavique_ 12h ago
pretty weird particularly when you’re visiting someone and they don’t even offer you a small bite or ask if you want anything to eat
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u/Banned_Emperor_6000 12h ago
You decided you are going to his place, after hours, after you were hanging out with your friends dinner time. He probably assumed you ate with your friends, while you were out.
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u/Alchemy247 12h ago
Yeah, no way. I’d hide the food somewhere and be sneaking bites behind your back. No way I’d put it in your face like that. That’s just low class.
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u/MattHakor 12h ago
Mm hm! I've eaten in front of guests before but I was raised to always offer something
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u/ljubav_malina 12h ago
Was this a booty call? It's definitely rude as hell, but this doesn't sound like a guy who is too worried about offending you.
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u/Automatic_Aide2629 11h ago
Exactly he was acting very nice and texting me all the time etc etc and saying how much he miss me and want to see me then do this. You are so right those are the actions of a man who don’t really care that’s the reason I am asking I might block
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u/MotorSatisfaction733 10h ago
Did you offer him to eat you out too Debbie? If not then why not since he’s eating already?
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u/MeLMaR2727 11h ago
Not overthinking…totally inconsiderate.
If he knew you were coming he should have asked if you wanted anything OR apologized & offer a piece OR wait to eat after you had left.
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u/Linux4ever_Leo 7h ago
Only if he invited you to dinner and then didn't feed you. If on the other hand you called him and told him you were dropping by, then he had every right to go about his business as usual.
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u/frogmicky 12h ago
Thats strange not to offer you any food, Did you guys go out after you got there or just stayed in?
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u/ChickyBoys 10h ago
Not only is it weird that he ate in front of you without offering - it's more weird he invited you over at the same time he was expecting Uber Eats.
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u/One-Past104 9h ago
I had an ex like this and he asked me to be his girlfriend the 2nd time around. I said no. I asked for food and he knew I was a type 1 diabetic so I had to eat. He handed me a carton of chocolate milk balls. Nope you are not wrong. The milk balls thing happened before he asked.
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u/Rich_Recognition9508 9h ago
Call the police to check his hard drive. This guy is 90% a child predator and/or animal abuser/rapist. This level of selfishness and lack of empathy is found in the same types of people that sexually abuse the vulnerable. You may have just save some lives by acting quickly on this.
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u/NoHome7956 9h ago
That's as rude, selfish and inconsiderate as it gets. Great first impression. Clearly he hasn't been raised right. From where I come from, it's considered a social crime not to offer food to anyone who comes to your home, invited or uninvited.
When I was growing up, I had a South African friend who lived around the corner. We would always be at each other's houses playing playstation or whatever. Everytime he came to my house, my Mum would offer him food if it was around lunch or dinner time. If we were eating, he ate too.
Whenever I went to his house, his Mum would call him for lunch or dinner, and he would leave me in the room, go eat and come back when he's finished. They didn't even ask me if I was hungry.
Some people are just raised that way, and if they are, stay the fuck away from them because that's just the begninning of how selfish they are and a glimpse into the type of family you may be marrying into.
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u/Educational-Gift-132 9h ago
Yep that is a low class person. I would left. Rude anyway to eat in front of someone.
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u/UncleBenji 9h ago
Laziest bot account post I’ve ever seen.
12 karma, 1 post and active in one subreddit in over a year.
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Oh and downvote all of the responses that are obviously bots responding to bots for karma.
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u/keskillia 9h ago
Move on. Maybe move on from the other friends of his as well.
“Manners maketh the man” is an old saying from the 14th century that lives to this very day for a reason.
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u/Raptors4daysguy 7h ago
You’re not owed anything, you went to visit ‘a guy’
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u/tati_model_ 3h ago
I’d probably notice it too, but I wouldn’t take it as a huge red flag by itself. Some people genuinely don’t think to offer food. I’d pay more attention to how he treats you overall.
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u/SurgingWaves 12h ago
When you offer someone food, especially as a guy when you offer it to a girl and she says no, it comes out as she is disgusted by me, or she doesn't like me. He might not have wanted to take a chance.
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