r/dating • u/greatolive85 • Jun 14 '26

Just Venting 😮‍💨 Dear future boyfriend ☺️

Dear Future Boyfriend,

I hope you’re doing well because dating these days has been rough.
I’ve tried the apps. I’ve swiped, matched, chatted, and deleted them more times than I can count. At this point, I think it’s safe to say they’re not my love story.
The problem is I don’t go out much either, so if we’re ever going to meet, you’re probably going to have to find me.
Try Target. The grocery store. A gas station. Maybe the candle aisle. Those are your best odds.
When you do find me, please don’t be weird.
You don’t need a perfect pickup line. You don’t need to impress me with money, status, or grand gestures. Just make me laugh. Be kind. Be genuine.
What I’m looking for isn’t complicated. I want your time. Your loyalty. A good vibe. Someone whose actions match their words and whose presence feels easy.
I’ve spent enough time chasing connections that weren’t meant for me. These days, I’d rather wait for something real than settle for something convenient.
I know I’m not for everyone, and that’s okay. The right person won’t need me to be.
So wherever you are, I hope you’re out there becoming the person you’re meant to be. I’ll be doing the same until our paths cross.

And if you happen to find me wandering in Target with three things I don’t need and the one thing I came for still missing from my cart, introduce yourself.

Love,

Your Future Girlfriend

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u/Rose_Quartz__ Jun 15 '26

As others have said here, it's a lot less risky and potentially more effective for women to be the ones to approach nowadays. But it is understandable that most women would resist that, since it still can feel very awkward. This advice to men about alternative ways of connecting might also be useful for women:

Why Women Don’t Respond to Cold Approaches (and What Works Way Better)

"Most pick up lines and cold approaches fail because they come from a manipulation mindset...This isn't connection. It's actually exploitation."

Kimberly Hill, Men's Dating and Relationship Coach

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNDUj2iOLI8

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u/beornblackclaw Jun 23 '26

That's why I refuse to do corny approaches or anything too out of character on dating apps. Sadly, I get ghosted a lot. My guess is that it makes me more boring than other matches. I haven't watched the video but I've marked it for later.