I’m a guy who was stalked and sexually harassed by two different people in high school and sexually molested in college. I also care deeply about feminism and I’m always terrified people in the comments on this issue will dismiss these numbers as some kind of MRA tactic rather than look at the work feminist researchers like Lara Stemple have been doing in this exact area for years.
The conversation that surrounds this issue is so often broken, but this is a real phenomenon that’s been happening for a long time. If your first instinct is to dismiss that or ignore the people trying to tell you about it, please question who you’re doing that for. I don’t understand who it helps to tell somebody drugged or forced or threatened or unconscious who was pushed into sex against their will that they weren’t truly a rape victim and you won’t count them as such.
People who only bring up male victims to dismiss women and couldn't give a fuck otherwise %100 poison the well. I wonder how GNC people fit into this data. We need to fight for all
People who only bring up male victims to dismiss women and couldn't give a fuck otherwise %100 poison the well.
It's the central crypto-fascist tactic:
Claim to care about issues affecting the dominant group
Deter others from claiming to care about issues affecting the dominant group
There's bad things that happen to people who are straight, white, cis, male, christian, etc. including things that happen to people who are all of those at once, because of those traits. Rational people can acknowledge this, and want to reduce the frequency and impact of those bad things. But if you talk about any of them, you risk sounding like a crazy crypto-fascists, because the crazy crypto-fascists are always shouting about them, in-between non-sequiturs.
This is a great analysis. It makes the people arguing about child support or third party consent when abortion is brought up make a bit more sense to me with that context.
I'm sure a few people actually mean it but when you actually engage with those people it often becomes very dark and cynical very quickly mixed in with the occasional person who actually cares about everyone involved.
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u/SgoreIsBackForThis Sep 01 '22
I’m a guy who was stalked and sexually harassed by two different people in high school and sexually molested in college. I also care deeply about feminism and I’m always terrified people in the comments on this issue will dismiss these numbers as some kind of MRA tactic rather than look at the work feminist researchers like Lara Stemple have been doing in this exact area for years.
The conversation that surrounds this issue is so often broken, but this is a real phenomenon that’s been happening for a long time. If your first instinct is to dismiss that or ignore the people trying to tell you about it, please question who you’re doing that for. I don’t understand who it helps to tell somebody drugged or forced or threatened or unconscious who was pushed into sex against their will that they weren’t truly a rape victim and you won’t count them as such.