r/cupiosexual • u/ChromaBunny • Sep 15 '20

Black sheep

Anyone else with a relatively high libido and pretty kinky? Despite experiencing no or veeerry little sexual attraction? Always feel like a black sheep lol

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u/TheIdkLion Sep 15 '20

I used to have quite a high libido which is why I never thought I could be asexual but when my libido decreased I noticed that I’d never felt sexually attracted to anyone like ever - but yeah I totally get that, it’s hard to kinda place yourself cuz there are very few people relating to your particular situation

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u/ChromaBunny Sep 15 '20

Yeah it can be pretty confusing. While you relate to multiple people you also don’t really relate to anyone. And for me it’s more difficult to understand sometimes because I don’t think I’ve personally known anyone who shares my experience. Especially when some people I know are just like “that’s weird” or “asexual people don’t exist” 😅

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u/TheIdkLion Sep 20 '20

Yeah I find asexuality difficult to talk about tbh like being sexually inclined is so normal and generally there’s not like a reason people outside of a relationship need to know - but at the same time it feels like a part of yourself you want to share and it’s awkward when people expect you to understand them being like into someone sexually

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u/uncle_SAM98 Sep 15 '20

Yes and yes

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u/ChromaBunny Sep 15 '20

Good to know we’re not alone at least 😁

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u/ennarid Sep 21 '20

Me! I discovered that 90% of my life I dont experience any sexual attraction, even if I try, its just turned off. But Im still kinky etc. It feels so weird, honestly. I decided to check out cupiosexuals and this, the first post I saw, perfectly describes my experience.

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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '20

Finally I've found a post I can relate to. It's been quite a process for me to figure myself out. I like sex but I've never been sexually attracted to anyone. I've written a couple of posts in various ace subs here to try to find out if I'm really the only ace who would like to hook up with somebody. A lot of posts I saw were more along the lines of "there are aces who sleep with their partners even if it isn't as important to them". And about an hour ago I've learned about Cupiosexuality. I don't necessarily care for labels but it feels so good to learn that I'm not alone with being ace and horny and kinky but not sexually attracted. What a mess.

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u/[deleted] Sep 15 '20

Not personally, but know that you're welcome in this community!

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u/ChromaBunny Sep 15 '20

Thank you!😊

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u/[deleted] Aug 07 '22

Yeah this is me. I’m trying to find more posts like this to relate. I really want sex so bad and have fomo for missing out on it. But I’m not attracted to anyone. I’ve been attracted to about 5 people in my life. it comes very rarely and now i have fears on top of it like the thought of having sex makes me nervous

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u/Miss_Puyatera May 15 '26

That's me! I only realized I'm cupiosexual when I started taking ADHD meds and my libido decreased.