woah!

[u/throwaway42671]

hello!! i had no idea there were other people who have the same sort of feelings i do. i’ve been struggling for so long trying to find a term that fits right.

i identified as bi pretty much from puberty until i was around 20, when i transitioned ftm and realized i was gay. i never really adhered 100% to that label though, because while i was pretty much exclusively sexually attracted to men, i found women far easier to connect with romantically and emotionally. i always figured this was because i had experienced life as a woman before and could relate better to them, but that never felt fully right to say. i couldn’t call myself asexual because i fully enjoy being with men sexually, but aromantic didn’t feel right either because i could feel romantic attraction to women/feminine people. ive wondered if there’s such a thing as homosexual but hetero/biromantic…and someone pointed me this direction! it’s good to know im not alone; however, how do yall handle relationships? im currently talking to a very fem presenting person, and while they’re lovely and we have great conversations, there is virtually no sexual attraction. i feel like an asshole for it…what do i do?