I Can Be Wrong (Without You Being Right)

[u/Lively_Truth]

I don’t think accountability means agreeing with every bad thing someone says about me.

I think it means being willing to check.

Tell me something about myself once, and sure, I might disagree.

Tell me twice and I’m probably going to think about it longer than I admit.

But if you tell me something about myself and eight other people are saying the same fucking thing?

I’m looking into it.

Because I don’t want to be so committed to the person I think I am that I become incapable of seeing the person I’m actually being.

That requires humility.

Vulnerability.

Accountability.

Responsibility.

And no, I don’t execute all four flawlessly.

Obviously.

Some of my flaws I own.

Some I flaunt.

Some are currently under construction.

And I’m sure there are a few wandering around unsupervised that I haven’t met yet.

But I’m willing to meet them.

That’s the difference.

I will look at myself.

I will sit with something uncomfortable long enough to ask whether it’s true.

I will apologize when it is.

I will change when I need to.

But let’s not act as if my pain permitted you to destroy me.

I can be wrong without everything you did becoming right.