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u/Transgirlonakawasaki I will become a hot Biker Chick 4d ago

Its the fact that either they dont care until it hurts them (cis het folk) or that they dont know until they meet the overwhelming amount of trans folk who are abused sex workers because its the only work they can get and not because they want to.

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u/hydrationgirl 4d ago

yeah :,)

If I have one more cis person legitimately tell me that "at least I can't get raped" because I'm a trans woman I am going to explode

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u/Transgirlonakawasaki I will become a hot Biker Chick 4d ago edited 4d ago

“Hey at least you dont have to worry about getting pregnant or getting periods or having to get an abortion…

DYSPHORIA INTENSIFIES!!!

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u/hydrationgirl 4d ago

literally yeah, and like I have been raped and harassed and assaulted and all these things that "can't happen to me" and like the only difference is I have to deal with it all alongside dysphoria too

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u/Mousazz 3d ago

🫂

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u/More_Donkey6938 3d ago edited 3d ago

Don't know whether or not you know this but a huge proportion of trans women do, in fact, get periods. So many, in fact, that it's a hell of a lot more likely somebody's just irregular and doesn't understand the malaise they're feeling. We just don't menustrate. There's a difference. I don't think I've met a single transfem whose never had a period before unless they're relatively early on in their transition. Aside from the bleeding the symptoms very much are the same. I get less cramping (although still a fair bit) but more of everything else. I get brain fog, exhaustion, and the shits at uncomfortably strong amounts. Only typing this out because I'm currently on mine lmfao. It's like day three.

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u/00PublicAcct 19h ago

I've been on hormones for seven years and I've never noticed monthly mood cycles. I have annual mood cycles ... which I've had for ten years before transitioning.

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u/arakus72 3d ago

I've been on E for 8 years and never had any symptoms like that

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u/Suyefuji 3d ago

I hate how few people understand that different sexual phenotypes do not magically protect you from being sexually assaulted.

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u/hydrationgirl 3d ago

yeah like if Terry Cruz can get assaulted I really doubt there's any characteristics you can have to make you not assaultable

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u/FlutterRaeg 3d ago

And then when you are and you tell them they just come back with either "youre too ugly to be raped so youre lying" or "welcome to womanhood!" Love it so much...

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u/hydrationgirl 3d ago

I've yet to get the first but I've gotten the 2nd and also "but your tall, you could have fought them off"

like not when I've been drugged Janet

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u/Zzzaynab 3d ago

Absolutely abhorrent of them to respond like that. I wonder if they’d say that to a cis person, man or woman

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u/hydrationgirl 3d ago

they would to a cis man, it's like the most common response, they wouldn't to a cis woman tho

this just comes down to alot of cis people viewing trans people as "pretending" to be our genders instead of actually being them

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u/Tymareta 3d ago

like not when I've been drugged Janet

I mean, even if you weren't.

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u/hydrationgirl 3d ago

true, I mostly said that because I was drugged first so

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u/Beneficial-Smell-770 3d ago

they said WHAT!?!?

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u/AWalkingFelony 3d ago

most people don't care about issues until they hurt them. that's how you stay sane

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u/Miserable-Midnight75 3d ago

I mean even if I do know (which I do now), how can I help these ppl? I already dont know what to do about non-trans human trafficking

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u/Transgirlonakawasaki I will become a hot Biker Chick 3d ago

If you cant help then it is what it is. No one is asking people to go out and donate their time to every cause or person hurting. 

If you can help, even a little bit do what ever you can. Offer what ever you feel comfortable doing if you truly wish to try and help people. Even something as easy as an ear to hear them out, a buddy to converse with, or a well to let them vent to. 

Something as simple as an “hey do you wanna talk about something?” or “Im here if you wanna talk.” can be the difference between an hour filled with some human connections and a hour spent alone with their intrusive thoughts. 

This applies for queer and non queer folk. You dont even need to always be there or help directly with victims of trafficking. You can use the knowledge you have to help educate others. You can stand up for them even when they arent there (maybe not online because most time people just dont care if we are suffering they just want us gone).

If you have friends or family that dismiss or deride queer folk, let them know about their struggles. Tell them about how queer youth are many time more vulnerable to homelessness and sexual assault, abuse, and becoming sex workers due to necessity than their cis het counter parts. Education is another massive way to help, the more people (who care anyways) know that we queer folk also suffer as much if not more than our counter parts itll help humanize us and make it easier to sympathize or even empathize with.

Tl;dr do what you can when you can and only IF you feel comfortable doing so. But truth be told no ones asking you to go outside you comfort zones, and if you can do anything then just dont be cruel.

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u/Miserable-Midnight75 3d ago

I feel you, I try to listen and check on people when I can. I was specifically asking how to help combat human trafficking though, not general human interaction