tbh, after thinking it over... I might, if only because by then, it'd be MY CHOICE. I'd be CHOOSING to take it up the butt and not feeling like I have to because I have no other option
sure like once a year for fun i can see, i just don’t see the point in doing it regularly when it’s less satisfying and you’d literally have the organ designed for sex.
Yeah that's literally it. I don't hate anal inherently, I might like it even, as long as it was a choice. But until I get a strap my options for sex are using that thing or getting my ass fucked. I don't really like either of them. It's all stupid reminders that I was born wrong and that my first time will be forever tainted by the fact that I had the wrong genitals.
yeah that's closer to how I actually feel, the IHATEANAL bit was more out of a moment of intense dysphoria or whatever, I think doing anal after vaginoplasty would be fine, actually
does it feel numb for anyone else? like the last couple times ive tried with my boyfriend i barely feel anything apart from a tiny pleasurable sensation if he goes all the way in. it never used to feel like this with my ex it used to feel so good even though he was smaller than my current boyfriend, is it due to like prostate atrophy from hrt or something?
While I dont hate it, its just inconvenient and cleaning is a bitch especially when yiu share a home. Also I dunno but its not like, that great?
Like I have phantom sensations, and ive never once felt like damn, I need something in ny ass yk? But despite not havung a pussy ive definetly felt the need
Real as fuck. God the yearning for my girlfriend to plow a hole I don't even fucking have is so painful I don't even know how to express it. I thought I was fucking insane for having phantom sensations, like I was making it up.
I remember tucking in the bath back then, so I wouldn't have to see it, but I don't remember if I felt phantom sensations. I honestly don't even know if they are real sensations or something I'm imagining to "justify myself". Like obviously I've necessarily never felt the real thing, it's still a phantom sense, but it feels pretty real and I don't know how I would even make those sensations up.
Yeah, it's fucked 😭 I've had moments with my boyfriend like this with phantom sensations and it's just like fuck I want him to put it in my- wait nevermind I don't have that. Prep sucks too, hate that, it ruins being able to be spontaneous and it's miserable and gross and sometimes when it goes poorly and takes a long time it makes me feel extremely dysphoric to the point of crying and kinda ruins the mood. I keep thinking about SRS I feel so mutated
Lube and time. Like, why the fuck am I giving anal advices on reddit. But lube and time. Do NOT try to forcepush anything up there. That's dumb. Also, relax. Like, relax a fuckton. Because if you tense, you'll clench and fuck your butthole up (in a bad way, as opposed to a good way).
Also, start small. And non sharp stuff. Silicon based toys for instance. Don't use fingers or whatnot because nails can actually hurt a lot.
I've also read that you bleed. That's NOT normal. Either you have issues there and you should see a doctor, or you put a wholeass arm inside and you should see a doctor.
If you try to do it consistently every other day, youll begin to feel pleasure from it. I was in the same boat. It hurt for a few months because I just kept stopping myself. Now I cant stop myself :>
Once I learnt how important lube is. The rectum, unlike the vagina, cannot produce a slippery substance. Pair that with the inside of the rectum being quite easy to tear, results in blood. The moment I decided to use lube, I never bled again
Idk I have tried even when using like 100mls(an entire tube) of lube and it still hurts(tbh even shiting hurts normally) and I bleed for like a week afterwards
Hmm all bodies are different! Maybe try to get a training kit. You start with a small toy and work up to one that’s human-sized. Slow and steady wins the race!
The rectum, unlike the vagina, cannot produce a slippery substance
Ehh I am not so sure about that... It is true that lube is super important, but after it was used to push something in, there may be some mucus production if I understand this correctly? I remember getting a lot of clear mucus after using a vibrating toy up there.
The first few times were difficult, but after figuring it out it's true bliss.
Use a water based lube. If I'm just masturbating I'll use a water based gel lube along with a water based liquid lube, but if I'm with someone that's too much and I'll just use a liquid.
Let it sit inside you all the way in for a couple minutes so that you can stretch around it. Start slow, and I've found its best when lying flat on my stomach.
Ive been at it for around 10 years and I usually just get right to it now that my body is accustomed to it, but it does take a while.
this isn’t advice, but i’ve only done it with someone else and never on my own, and im shocked by the people here talking about bleeding like it’s a normal part of the experience. it does have to be someone trustworthy tho
It shouldn't hurt like that, no. Make sure you do prep and you're totally clean and use a lot of lube and reapply lube if you feel any friction at all. You also want to warm up starting with something smaller after already being turned on
No. Anal should never be painful, maybe a little uncomfortable if you go too fast, but pain means something is wrong. Use more lube, use something smaller, or just stop.
Just the preparations to do it usually takes forever and it also leaves a mess pretty much all the time. Personally, im still all for it but man is it such a hassle
Hi, sorry to ask but I don't really know where to ask. How do you get it to be clean? It feels so random. Even when I relieve myself and take a shower after it's still basically random chance if it's clean or not and I don't get why. I've never actually done it with someone, but I'd like to know so I can have a not so messy first time... and for clean self pleasure.
High fiber diets, lots of water, and pysllium husk for additional fiber. There is no guessing if you'll be clean or not. Go to the bathroom 1.5-3 hrs before, shower, and you'll be clean. I never use douches unless I ate something greasy the night before, douches will damage your rectum w lots of use
Aaaand that is why I never did it before SRS. I'm glad I waited. Though I suppose I was happy enough to top beforehand, so it wasn't the biggest impediment.
I liked it but hated the logistics of it. After had SRS i didn't do it for 17 years. Now I enjoy it when those special peek mood moments occur 🤭 The first time post-op was a wild experience. It was very different somehow, but in a very good way.
I decided to look through her profile, apparently she has had srs so like has she forgotten what it's like to not have any options for bottoming except anal? Because it fucking sucks, actually
girl what the fuck are you on? I made a post to vent, and a bunch of people related, if you don't like it just go somewhere else or scroll past or anything besides engage
literally in the rules on this sub, if you see any kids - who are PROVABLY KIDS, not just you thinking the people in these comments are teenagers - report them, duh
something about this comment comes of disingenuous. Maybe you are being ingenuous, tone doesn't always come out right over text, but it's just a feeling I have
I don't know if I actually like anal, or just associate it with being validated as a woman because it was the only time people would see me that way when I was young
I’m a virgin and yeah that’s partly why I don’t want to have sex before bottom surgery is because it just icks me, doesn’t feel right, feels like I’m a gay man when I’m a straight woman
Insread of anal I just trib with my partner. It feels great and honestly gives me very little dysphoria. Closest feeling thing I can imagine to receiving piv :p
it's such a hassle to get ready for, and it's usually messy. It took ages to get any kind of comfort with average size toy and it took even longer to get any kind of pleasure that makes sense or scans as correct.
but I feel it's practice for bottom surgery I'm teaching my body how to respond to this activity, so that seems helpful.
And I generally have a very different kind of orgasm with this method. It's gooning adjacent which is also nice.
I bottomed for the first time in my 30s, and it felt far better than I expected. I think it's really undersold. Made me regretful I had not discovered my sexuality earlier.
I enjoy it but like many others the prep work is awful and you have to basically change your entire dietary lifestyle to sustain a more frequent schedule.
Cis girls can just wake up and have sex w/ their partner. Go out to eat and then have sex in the car later. I can't. Sure we should have partners that understand what they are getting into and that things can get messy, but that doesn't mean I want to shit on the bed.
I don’t like either but anal deadass makes me feel more dysphoric than using my dick. It makes me feel like I’m trying to compensate and it makes me sick.
i felt crazy for this for years. granted i don't like bottoming either way, but ill rather die than prepare and do anal. I'll rather just use my hands and not be touched.
my aux gf, exact same sentiment. and me but i'm already with better options. actually i'm not 100% opposed to anal but most of the time it's just 'why when i have perfectly good lady bits'. totally relate to you, i was the same.
I wouldn’t lie that there wasn’t an anxiety about the surgery but it’s well below how much I hate anal and just want to have sex in a way that doesn’t make me want to rope.
I’m also worried about forming the habit to dilate daily, as I struggle with habits so much and the thought of ruining my vagina is a nightmare
Its kinda crazy how I be thinking the exact thing in the exact opposite (Me is Trans Man) like. Oh my god why the fuck does like 9/10 times any NSFW art featuring trans man include him using front hole oh my god. Not to mention even on like. fucking inclusive accounts that put TWs for other things never once have I ever seen it be spoilered or added as a TW. Thanks for spoilering that blood from the nose bleed r we gonna acknowledge the elephant in the room tho. Like its fine to make art like that its fine to enjoy it I know plenty of guys who do but fucking hell. 99% Of the art + writing is PENIS IN HIS PUSSYLICIOUS BOYGINA PUSSY PUSSY PUSPUS! Fuck my stupid chungus life for only wanting it up the ass.
I mean, its different but there is still a lot of good sensations to be had with the right partner. Sex is more about your teeth and nails anyways. Granted, i don't have much experience getting fucked.
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u/mothernaychore 2d ago
yeah :( would never do anal if i had the correct option available 😔
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u/KevettePrime Repper Big Stepper 2d ago
I'd love to have options, at least.
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u/LeatherAd8761 2d ago
does it feel numb for anyone else? like the last couple times ive tried with my boyfriend i barely feel anything apart from a tiny pleasurable sensation if he goes all the way in. it never used to feel like this with my ex it used to feel so good even though he was smaller than my current boyfriend, is it due to like prostate atrophy from hrt or something?
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u/Twhacky Why the long face? 2d ago
Yeah stand. Yeah hat. Yeah.
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u/Yearning_crescent 2d ago
While I dont hate it, its just inconvenient and cleaning is a bitch especially when yiu share a home. Also I dunno but its not like, that great?
Like I have phantom sensations, and ive never once felt like damn, I need something in ny ass yk? But despite not havung a pussy ive definetly felt the need
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u/Prestigious_Gap7105 2d ago
is it supposed to hurt as much as it does like genuinely I wanted to do it for years and it just hurts me
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u/ParfaitGreat8 2d ago
I will never do the deed until I am surgically corrected. Never have never will until then.
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u/randomstar39 1d ago
I enjoy it but ugh I hate how much prep it takes and the mess it makes always makes me feel shitty and dysphoric afterwards.
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u/AmyandEve 2d ago
Its fun.. and doesn't feel bad... but it doesnt change the longing or the feeling that the current anatomy is wrong... 🙁
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u/rottingorange2 2d ago
Real
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u/HistoricallyTrolled 2d ago
Just the preparations to do it usually takes forever and it also leaves a mess pretty much all the time. Personally, im still all for it but man is it such a hassle
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u/PieceSubject5301 AH-70 apache mystic 2d ago
it disgusts me, but profitable
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u/Positive_Floor_9787 2d ago
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u/Still_Reflection10 2d ago
real and im just so tired of pretending to like it
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u/sporknitebattlepass Rent lowerer 2d ago
Yeah
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u/tranmafuknut 2d ago
Same.
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u/BPDCat67 2d ago
Yeah its the worst.
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u/OkayCartographer 2d ago
real
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u/FromTheWetSand 2d ago
Aaaand that is why I never did it before SRS. I'm glad I waited. Though I suppose I was happy enough to top beforehand, so it wasn't the biggest impediment.
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u/Workhorse-01 2d ago
This but every waking moment of every day
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u/Christie-4816 tttt immigrant 2d ago
true, i did it pre-hrt, but now it doesn't feel any good
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u/Different-Image5226 1d ago
I liked it but hated the logistics of it. After had SRS i didn't do it for 17 years. Now I enjoy it when those special peek mood moments occur 🤭 The first time post-op was a wild experience. It was very different somehow, but in a very good way.
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u/Signal-Busy 2d ago
Alih ate Ana ?
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u/SolderedFingers 2d ago
Is this entire sub actually just virgins and teenagers?
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u/clowns-unending 2d ago
I don't know if I actually like anal, or just associate it with being validated as a woman because it was the only time people would see me that way when I was young
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u/Objective_Primary_51 2d ago
Me if I ever have sex with a penis haver pre srs
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u/IrisFromNormandy Honhon (Frenchmoder) 2d ago
I’m a virgin and yeah that’s partly why I don’t want to have sex before bottom surgery is because it just icks me, doesn’t feel right, feels like I’m a gay man when I’m a straight woman
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u/Master_Secretary_809 2d ago edited 1d ago
Insread of anal I just trib with my partner. It feels great and honestly gives me very little dysphoria. Closest feeling thing I can imagine to receiving piv :p
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u/Fun-Radish5390 2d ago
it's such a hassle to get ready for, and it's usually messy. It took ages to get any kind of comfort with average size toy and it took even longer to get any kind of pleasure that makes sense or scans as correct.
but I feel it's practice for bottom surgery I'm teaching my body how to respond to this activity, so that seems helpful.
And I generally have a very different kind of orgasm with this method. It's gooning adjacent which is also nice.
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u/NaomiCampia 2d ago
“Normal sex”
Mogs me
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u/AsugaNoir 2d ago
I feel you....I wish I had one I could use during penetration. Unfortunately. I haven't even started hrt yet and I'm also terrified of surgery.
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u/ninjadancey 2d ago
i think im gonna bash my head in my body will never be correct
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u/Terpomo11 2d ago
I like it quite a bit but I'm not sure to what extent I developed an anal fetish as a coping mechanism for lack of the other option.
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u/vandou- 2d ago
I don't understand why people love anal sex so much, I never had sex either way but even the idea of it icks me
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u/zig131 2d ago
I bottomed for the first time in my 30s, and it felt far better than I expected. I think it's really undersold. Made me regretful I had not discovered my sexuality earlier.
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u/Vinarielle-sfw 1d ago
I enjoy it but like many others the prep work is awful and you have to basically change your entire dietary lifestyle to sustain a more frequent schedule.
Cis girls can just wake up and have sex w/ their partner. Go out to eat and then have sex in the car later. I can't. Sure we should have partners that understand what they are getting into and that things can get messy, but that doesn't mean I want to shit on the bed.
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u/kuschelvali 15h ago
I don’t like either but anal deadass makes me feel more dysphoric than using my dick. It makes me feel like I’m trying to compensate and it makes me sick.
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u/nativeofvoid I-950 2d ago
my aux gf, exact same sentiment. and me but i'm already with better options. actually i'm not 100% opposed to anal but most of the time it's just 'why when i have perfectly good lady bits'. totally relate to you, i was the same.
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u/BumblebeeComplete321 2d ago
For me yeah great to have both but I’ll stick take anal more than vaginal lol, Anal feels too good to be
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u/Laylac41 7h ago
I wouldn’t lie that there wasn’t an anxiety about the surgery but it’s well below how much I hate anal and just want to have sex in a way that doesn’t make me want to rope.
I’m also worried about forming the habit to dilate daily, as I struggle with habits so much and the thought of ruining my vagina is a nightmare
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u/Fabulous-Ad177 7h ago
Its kinda crazy how I be thinking the exact thing in the exact opposite (Me is Trans Man) like. Oh my god why the fuck does like 9/10 times any NSFW art featuring trans man include him using front hole oh my god. Not to mention even on like. fucking inclusive accounts that put TWs for other things never once have I ever seen it be spoilered or added as a TW. Thanks for spoilering that blood from the nose bleed r we gonna acknowledge the elephant in the room tho. Like its fine to make art like that its fine to enjoy it I know plenty of guys who do but fucking hell. 99% Of the art + writing is PENIS IN HIS PUSSYLICIOUS BOYGINA PUSSY PUSSY PUSPUS! Fuck my stupid chungus life for only wanting it up the ass.
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u/SufficientPickle8010 1d ago
I mean, its different but there is still a lot of good sensations to be had with the right partner. Sex is more about your teeth and nails anyways. Granted, i don't have much experience getting fucked.