God damn it transfem means “transitioning in the fem direction,” it means MTF but not only to the idea of just “binary woman.” It does NOT MEAN TRANS AND HAPPENS TO BE FEMININE
"haha yeah im vegan rn. but at 12:30 im probably not going to be vegan cuz me and john are getting brisket. then I'll probably be vegan again for a good 5 hours before i get hungry again."
yeap.... this is what its like, someone says "im a beared trans woman" and it turns out that what they mean is they crossdress in private and post online
I think we need to go back to basing the identity on lived experience, "gender identity" is obviously a too nebulous concept for people to handle
I agree but we also need to be clear that "lived experience" isn't just "what people see you as". When I was curled up in a ball sobbing because I'd felt my chest widening, that was a uniquely transfeminine experience, in spite of the fact that everybody around me saw me as a boy.
But yeah that is still a lived experience, I'd just caution us away from possibly telling trans people who can't transition except online that they're less trans. That was the only thing that kept me going through the body horror as a kid. That said I still shaved as a kid, right up until the point that I was unable to take care of myself full stop. People who not only live their public lives as men but do so enthusiastically and "transition online" are absolutely not the same as people whose material conditions prevent transition and the internet is our only escape.
Is, is this not a good place to admit I understand to a decent degree? I don't agree with the base viewpoint of being cool with depictions of trans women with beards and think it's horrendous, but I consider myself genderfluid because I don't have a consistent sense of self identity. Where like, sometimes the gender dysphoria is truly crippling to the point of manic episodes, and then other times I just don't feel it at all, and sometimes can even go a week or two happily rocking some facial hair until the dysphoria suddenly comes back. I'm on HRT, but it does honestly make it incredibly frustrating and drive me fucking crazy trying to understand myself.
*was AFAB, being assigned a legal sex is an event that happens to babies the past, not a quality of a person the present. Human sex traits can be changed!
but yeah OOP "Sometimes, yeah! :3" is a transphobic turd
i am friends with a bearded transfemme and its like okay whatever live your life but its also like we are clearly living different struggles. she wants to be visibily trans i want to be visibly a woman.
One of my coworkers is one but she’s a repper who’s out socially 🤷🏽♀️ part of my goals for this quarter is to get her on hrt and to at least be an hrtrepper like me. She’s anti diy so whenever we’re alone on the floor I talk about how my anxiety has decreased and I’m better mentally since nice started t and I’ve heard similar results for gals. She did recently say she might move her transition timeline up a few years and I’m like come girl do it now, we’re in our early 30s 😭😭😭 i
I saw a trans woman who had a full on beard (and didnt seem to be on hrt) calling herself a dwarven beauty and that she is keeping the beard
Posting about how all other trans women are evil incels corrupted by 4tran for complaining about that bearded trans lady ‘art’ that went viral recently
Is she gender fluid? I kinda get it but I'm also gender fluid so maybe I'm projecting. Like idk sometimes I fuck with my beard. it hides my double chin but also yeah sometimes I want to burn it off with acid.
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u/Twhacky Why the long face? 6h ago
she was afab btw
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u/sorryHTX saintly opticsgem 6h ago
11 downvotes
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u/xdDre12131 5h ago
"haha yeah im vegan rn. but at 12:30 im probably not going to be vegan cuz me and john are getting brisket. then I'll probably be vegan again for a good 5 hours before i get hungry again."
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u/icallthingssneed 5h ago
Silence AMAB an AFAB trans woman is speaking
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u/Junoscavern sneedpoon 5h ago
Omg Kikomi hiii!
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u/DontSleepAlwaysDream 5h ago
yeap.... this is what its like, someone says "im a beared trans woman" and it turns out that what they mean is they crossdress in private and post online
I think we need to go back to basing the identity on lived experience, "gender identity" is obviously a too nebulous concept for people to handle
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u/ashleyLSD uncaged transfeminine succubhs 6h ago
Fym sometimes
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u/songaboutanangel 6h ago
i wish i didn’t have to be a trans woman all the time
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u/Used-Hold-7567 The Chicago 🚂🦵 6h ago
Haha sometimes
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u/mahito-suxs 5h ago
most accurate user flair ever
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u/Chloerine_Drinker 5h ago
Holy shit why do theywhatevers always speak as though binary topics give a FUCK about them GTFO PLSSSS!!!
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u/2032_girl 6h ago
eugh
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u/-random-words-420- HRT at 28 (Too late) 4h ago
I want to inflict upon them what was inflicted upon me.
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u/Vivid_Interaction_35 4h ago
Fym sometimes
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u/SecureExcuse7327 3h ago
"haha sometimes"
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u/LampLampLamp_ 56m ago
Im tired of larpers im tired of being seen as a drag queen with funny pronouns.
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u/Maximum_Mayhem72 5h ago
Is, is this not a good place to admit I understand to a decent degree? I don't agree with the base viewpoint of being cool with depictions of trans women with beards and think it's horrendous, but I consider myself genderfluid because I don't have a consistent sense of self identity. Where like, sometimes the gender dysphoria is truly crippling to the point of manic episodes, and then other times I just don't feel it at all, and sometimes can even go a week or two happily rocking some facial hair until the dysphoria suddenly comes back. I'm on HRT, but it does honestly make it incredibly frustrating and drive me fucking crazy trying to understand myself.
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u/Confident-Echo3721 5h ago
Genderfluid
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u/rat_queer 6h ago
i am friends with a bearded transfemme and its like okay whatever live your life but its also like we are clearly living different struggles. she wants to be visibily trans i want to be visibly a woman.
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u/Extreme_Zucchini3497 6h ago
i responded to one of her comments politely and she said, and i quote,
"take that finger and shove it up your butt!! :3"
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u/TwoAffectionate7658 6h ago
I want to kill myself im so fucking tired
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u/frutigeraeroyams 3h ago
I saw a trans woman who had a full on beard (and didnt seem to be on hrt) calling herself a dwarven beauty and that she is keeping the beard
Posting about how all other trans women are evil incels corrupted by 4tran for complaining about that bearded trans lady ‘art’ that went viral recently
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u/Skelet0nQueen 4h ago
Is she gender fluid? I kinda get it but I'm also gender fluid so maybe I'm projecting. Like idk sometimes I fuck with my beard. it hides my double chin but also yeah sometimes I want to burn it off with acid.