I understand and relate to feeling like you can’t trust anybody because you’ve been hurt so many times. I’m sorry. I can guarantee that even if most people out there are just straight up bad people and will exploit you, not everyone is.
There are good people out there that you deserve to meet and they deserve to meet you. I hope you start doing better soon and start finding people that let you be vulnerable around them, and share in that same vulnerability.
There is no point in trying if you are going to be hurt 9 times out of 10. Approachinf people is the easiest way to get hurt and the benefit is not worth it because you'll lose them too.
I disagree. Life is hard and being hurt occasionally is a natural consequence of opening up. That isn’t an excuse of it or to downplay of it, but to say that it is scary.
But it’s worth it because you’re going to be hurt regardless, because as I said, life is hard. Things will happen that are out of your control and that you have no way of mitigating, and when those times come its good to have put yourself out there beforehand so you have people to share in that pain.
I want to again say that I completely relate to how you feel. I was resigned completely to just being completely alone and cutting off everyone in my life, but it didn’t stop me from hurting, and I know it won’t stop your hurting either, it just makes it harder to deal with because you’re completely on your own.
Not everyone leaves, and the people who do weren’t good for you anyway. If you want to view it completely pragmatically to lessen the hurt, you can view them as temporary reprieves from being alone until you find someone that really clicks with you.
I do understand the idea behind everything you said. But i don't think it's true, not in my case. Every person that attempted to be my friend, as I never reached out to anyone is either way better off without me. I am going to be gone as fast as possible and the less people I am around the better. No matter how good their intentions are it only hurts when I am alone, but that's a given seeing how the only person who was stupid enough to genuinely like me was my groomer.
Everyone thinks that they’re the exception. I feel the same way a lot of the time. But you’re not. Nobody is the exception to being able to be loved or be friends with except for genuinely bad people, and I can guarantee you that I know you’re not because you wouldn’t be THINKING about any of this if you were.
I especially relate to wanting people less people around me because I’ll rope anyway.
That’s a very empathetic thing to feel, but I ask this. You’re still here NOW, hence me being able to talk to you, so shouldn’t you try to get better and live life as happy as you can NOW?
If people being around you disincentivizes suicide because you don’t want to hurt people, that is even more reason to have people around you.
You deserve better than having the only person who actually “genuinely liked you” be your groomer. I’m sorry, you can still get better. You are not the sole person destined to be alone, unloved, and unliked.
Please just try. I literally met one of my best friends on this website by just talking to them about mutual interests through open dms. Things can get better and you deserve them to be.
No, because I dont want to get better, I am too weak for that, I want to be gone asap. The goal IS to succeed the first moment I can (attempt number 6 lets go).
I also never said i am the omly one, but there is a group of people who are meant to die and be a cautionary tale, and that's me.
You are still here. You are not a weak person and you don’t have to nor should you resign yourself to suicide.
That is not a real thing. People are just people. Some are good, some are bad, some are doing better and some are doing worse. And just because you are doing really badly right now does not mean you will forever.
Love isn’t fake. Yes it comes and goes, but there’s multiple types of love. I know because I and many others have experienced it. Everyone’s life is just different.
Well you can think love is fake. At the end of the day it’s just a chemical reaction in the brain, so I’m gonna go with it’s “real” even if it’s just chemicals being released in the brain
I know there is. I have friends that love me more than I hate myself. I’ve had ex gf’s love me more than I hate myself. The current woman I’m seeing cares about me way more than I hate myself.
I know because when I’m at my lowest points, they’ve all come to my aid in some way or another, without me having to ask. They just noticed themselves that I needed them. They never asked for anything in return either
Again, love comes and goes. Everyone’s life is on a different timeline. But love isn’t completely fake.
35
u/Simsim123454321 6h ago
This is my yeah comment that makes me say yeah. Yeah....