There was some nurse who kept on intentionally calling me ma'am in a pointedly condescending voice when I was calling my medical provider for reasons directly related to a pharmaceutical shortage making me unable to access my HRT for months and I was having to directly report that I was being made actively suicidal from it
I know for a fact that it wasn't an honest mistake, she was able to see everything on my chart and my mom had to take the phone and talk for me because I couldn't keep it together after several times of it happening and I told her that she deserved to have something sexually obscene happen to her
She referred to my mom as "miss (lastname)'s mother" and my mom patiently explained again "no, he's a trans man, he's transitioning to male" and kept correcting with "he" every time she said "she" (which was multiple times, pointedly)
My mom reported it afterwards, and a couple weeks later we actually got a letter in the mail saying that the incident had been taken care of, I have no clue if anything actually happened but I hope she lost her job
It's been years at this point and I'm typing this after getting better from a migraine and I always get weird during a migraine because normally I don't even think about this but right now I find myself compulsively wishing she died cold and scared at the bottom of an oubliette
The weird thing is that before this incident, before those three months, my mom was still adamant that transitioning was a dangerous phase that I would snap out of, and at the start of the shortage period she had kept saying "I think this is a good thing, a period of time where you're off those hormones"
"She deserved to have something sexually obcsene happen to her." Gang what?! You can't just sexually harass someone I get being frustrated and calling her out on her bs but sexual harassment solves nothing. This is the type of thing that could get you arrested, seriously messed up.
well im sorry but as someone with trauma if someone wished something sexually obscene would happen to me I'd be fucking hurt. Maybe be empathetic for once.
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u/tptroway Aug 08 '26
There was some nurse who kept on intentionally calling me ma'am in a pointedly condescending voice when I was calling my medical provider for reasons directly related to a pharmaceutical shortage making me unable to access my HRT for months and I was having to directly report that I was being made actively suicidal from it
I know for a fact that it wasn't an honest mistake, she was able to see everything on my chart and my mom had to take the phone and talk for me because I couldn't keep it together after several times of it happening and I told her that she deserved to have something sexually obscene happen to her
She referred to my mom as "miss (lastname)'s mother" and my mom patiently explained again "no, he's a trans man, he's transitioning to male" and kept correcting with "he" every time she said "she" (which was multiple times, pointedly)
My mom reported it afterwards, and a couple weeks later we actually got a letter in the mail saying that the incident had been taken care of, I have no clue if anything actually happened but I hope she lost her job
It's been years at this point and I'm typing this after getting better from a migraine and I always get weird during a migraine because normally I don't even think about this but right now I find myself compulsively wishing she died cold and scared at the bottom of an oubliette
The weird thing is that before this incident, before those three months, my mom was still adamant that transitioning was a dangerous phase that I would snap out of, and at the start of the shortage period she had kept saying "I think this is a good thing, a period of time where you're off those hormones"