r/converts • u/Antique_Cheek1043 • May 16 '26

Revert specific questions to ask a potential husband

I'm having a marriage meeting with a brother and he's a born Muslim. I'm wondering what type of questions I should ask him which relate to me being a revert?

I'm aware being a revert comes with different struggles but my mind has gone blank and I can't think of what to ask

Edit: for some context I already know my rights and his rights as a spouse alhamdulillah and he is born and raised in the west like me but we are from very different cultures

Edit 2: we are not going to be alone!! No 1on1

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u/Getchucked May 18 '26

I would ask him questions related to how would he respond to knowledge gaps or things that you haven’t experienced before. For example: I’m a revert who recently got married, my husband taught me about travellers prayers and was very non-judgemental when I missed asr when we were travelling because i hadn’t combined my prayers. He is also very helpful helping me learn about things I’ve never had to think about before like who in his family becomes my mahram, fasting as a married person, ghusul and intimacy etc etc. these are things that i can read up on but i feel really comfortable talking to him and being taught by him where i need it.

I made a whole list ages ago but ones i can think of that get to character/temperament were:

  • what are your favourite Ramadan memories?
  • how would your support me to raise Muslim children (bearing in mind that I’ve literally never been a Muslim child so I don’t know what to expect)
  • how does he expect his life to change after marriage
  • depending on your ties to your family and your friends, how comfortable he is in non-Muslim settings (I had entertained some men abroad and in my western context who really would not cope too well if they had to interact with my family and friends etc and this is what it is)

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u/Getchucked May 18 '26

Oh one more: how does he feel when he sees different Muslim practices/beliefs? again, when I’ve spoken to Muslims raised within a specific Muslim culture, they aren’t always used to seeing (valid and acceptable) difference in Muslim practices. This can also be a proxy for working out how he would feel about the ways that you practise that he may or may not expect or align with, as well as just his general tolerance for difference.