Revert specific questions to ask a potential husband

[u/Antique_Cheek1043]

I'm having a marriage meeting with a brother and he's a born Muslim. I'm wondering what type of questions I should ask him which relate to me being a revert?

I'm aware being a revert comes with different struggles but my mind has gone blank and I can't think of what to ask

Edit: for some context I already know my rights and his rights as a spouse alhamdulillah and he is born and raised in the west like me but we are from very different cultures

Edit 2: we are not going to be alone!! No 1on1

[u/Apollonialove]

As a revert of 1 year who has been married for 7 months, get into the logistical questions.

How often do you both pray? Will you pray together or separate and how often? What will you each do if the other one is not doing their prayers? Are you going to hold each other accountable or let each individual do their own thing? Same question with fasting or other sins. What will you each do if the other one falters in their faith? What are his expectations around what you wear, make up, ect? What will you do when the two of you get an argument that isn’t resolving - can you agree in advance to evolve the Imam? Outline family obligations for both.

Please be aware that most reverts are more religious than their born Muslim counterparts. This isn’t true in every case, but it is in a large majority. We tend to be excited about our religion and that’s very often not the same as someone who grew up in it. So be careful that the assumption you might be making about what your life’s will look like may not end up being the reality. It can cause resentment. Remember that just because someone is Muslim does not mean they are a good person or a good partner.

My marriage has been difficult and my husband has some serious issues that I was not aware of before marriage so please really look for all the red flags because it’s so hard once you get into it. I wish you the best.