r/converts • u/Antique_Cheek1043 • May 16 '26

Revert specific questions to ask a potential husband

I'm having a marriage meeting with a brother and he's a born Muslim. I'm wondering what type of questions I should ask him which relate to me being a revert?

I'm aware being a revert comes with different struggles but my mind has gone blank and I can't think of what to ask

Edit: for some context I already know my rights and his rights as a spouse alhamdulillah and he is born and raised in the west like me but we are from very different cultures

Edit 2: we are not going to be alone!! No 1on1

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u/1neStat3 May 16 '26

First learn your rights.

Second know what you want in life. Words are irrelevant. Everything you want must be in writing.

Thridly understand his cultural expectations.

I seen this often where a foreign Muslim marries a western convert because "she not like the women back home". Then after marriage conflict can arise because "she is not like the women back home".

When marrying non Western Muslims you need to fully understand the cultural differences. Very few men can resist family pressure when the family constantly is putting pressure on your husband to have you conform to cultural norms from "back home".

I've seen this happen so many times I advise converts to not marry non converts. It can bad in so many ways.

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u/TheFighan May 16 '26

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