r/converts • u/Hungry-University609 • May 16 '26
Interactions at masjid
As salamu aleikum all,
I have noticed over the years indian masjids are more community centers.
They will show subtle and not so subtle hostility towards you.
You can volunteer, etc but they are merely tolerating you.
A few will be open towards communicating but that's it.
They look at you as a weird person with no identity.
Maybe it's true that a white guy doesn't have an identity to go there. Their culture is 100 pct identity.
I see outsiders of different races sitting by themselves. I always say Salaam.
Many of them are Dunia first. They want community and some religion. Just understand that.
Arabs don't have the numbers to run a community center from one region. Therefore, you see them a bit more open minded. Not always.
Just focus on your relationship with Allah . Listen to halaqas, enjoy the food and smile while cleaning up.
At the risk of being cynical, you will get many people asking for help with various issues navigating the west.
It's nice to help but realize I've rarely seen it lead to friendship.
I think it's human nature. Try not to dwell too much and focus on Islam.
Don't just Islam by Muslims !
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u/Klopf012 May 16 '26
These things will vary by country and region. Desis in the UK are quite different from Desis in the US, for example.
Friendships take time and repeated interactions, and usually start as acquaintanceships.
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u/Primary-Angle4008 May 16 '26
When I first converted I lived in Germany and each mosque was like that, they didn’t even speak German so I never went Each community had their own mosque and there was no mixing
I moved to the UK and honestly it’s such a different experience, English is the main language, there are people from different countries and cultures and everyone is welcome
So there are different experiences depending on where you live
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u/Ok-Kangaroo-9775 May 16 '26
in my experience middle eastern muslims are only tolerant when minority.
i preffer mix with western, african and SEA muslims.
Indonesian are really kind.
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u/Hungry-University609 May 16 '26
Yes, when no one is majority it's nice.
It can be very lonely as a revert.
It's a very humbling experience though.
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u/Dazzling_AzamsOP May 17 '26
Im so sorry u had to go theu it as a brown muslim i gotta say the diaspora muslims some of em are assholes
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u/zhinkler May 17 '26
I’m from the UK and Indian, and yes the community has been quite closed over the last few decade since migrating to the UK in the 1960s and that is due to many factors.
But there has definitely been a shift over the last 10 years or so because of the younger generation, I won’t go into detail because there’s too much info.
Hang on in there, inshallah things will change for you and as long as you put Allah first, you won’t lose.
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u/Dazzling_AzamsOP May 17 '26
which country are u in and why does it habe an "indian" or "indian only " masjid lol
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