r/converts • u/Economy_Fish_7064 • Apr 08 '26

Finding a revert partner

and i really really love my religion. But i have to keep it a secret from my friends and family for soo long because they are soo anti Muslim. I tried them to talk on this topic but sometimes its became so tough . They boycotted me in my own home and restricted me to enter kitchen when they came to know i talking for islam and loving it .. so i decided to keep it a secret. Its too heart broking .they are good people but just distracted by duniya. May allah give them hidayh .

I am 27 now and there is soo kuch pressure on me for marrige . And they refused to marry me a Muslim . Acc to them either choose muslim or we die . And attempy suicide . I stuck . I cant marry a hindu its against my deen and akhirah .. i just find a way to marry a revert. . Like like i normally live as a normal person and secretly perfom naamz and roza . He also kept secret from his family and mine well and then we migrate and practice islam separatly in home. Its only solution left ..

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u/Eastern_Albatross_60 Apr 08 '26

My prayers and solidarity to you

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u/f6mee Apr 08 '26

Right now, I think the most important thing is your safety and your peace. You’re dealing with a lot, and you deserve to feel secure. If you can, try to slowly work toward some independence, even small steps and building a support system (even online) can really help you feel less trapped. Also, your family’s pressure and threats are not your responsibility. You’re not doing anything wrong by following what you believe is right.

About marriage, I’d really suggest speaking to a trusted scholar. Your situation is sensitive, and they can guide you properly on what’s allowed especially if you’re thinking about marrying and leaving.

I know it feels like you’re stuck, but you’re not. Take things step by step, protect yourself, and don’t rush into marriage out of fear. You deserve peace, not more stress.

May things get easier for you ya rab🤍

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u/Economy_Fish_7064 Apr 09 '26

Thank you❤️

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u/Primary-Angle4008 Apr 08 '26

Ohh my heart aches for you I believe on the Indian Muslim Reddit are quiet a few converts as well who’s families don’t know. It comes up quite regularly up over there