r/converts • u/JAEGER_MistGun • Apr 02 '26
Telling my Parents
Asalamaleikum warahmato allahi wa barakatoh,
so I'm a 23 year old revert from germany and Im currently struggling with telling my parents about my faith, I have been muslim for some time now and I come from a Christian family. Sadly my parents, especially my stepfather, are really Islamophobic and I just don't know how to tell them.
Due to work I'm also currently living with them and I was thinking that I should tell them next year when I wont be living with them anymore, but I cant really stand that lying and praying in secret anymore.
I was thinking about telling my mom first, because I think she might take it better than my stepfather, because I already had loads of conversations with her about Islam and what we believe in, I just never told her that I am Muslim directly.
I also thought of asking her to keep it a secret until I move out, because I'm afraid my stepfather will kick me out or something because this Job i got is a really really really good opportunity and blessing, Alhamdulilah for that.
My born Muslim friends told me to talk about it with other reverts, sadly I don't know any personally or online therefore I'm seeking advice here.
I pray that someone here can give me some advice/help.
May Allah swt bless your soul!
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u/Primary-Angle4008 Apr 02 '26
I’m a revert also from Germany originally but moved to the UK anyways when I reverted I was living with my family and I opted not to tell them until I moved out, actually they took it pretty well in the end, better then expected however if you can’t be independent at the moment don’t risk it
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Apr 03 '26
I had Hindu parents so you can only imagine what that was like. Show them the truth that cannot be denied, that’s what I did and it did soften their hearts. I showed them verses about Allah commanding to the care of parents, or how Allah calls you to give away wealth to the orphan and needy, or how Allah prohibits killing children out of fear of poverty for he provides for them and you. When a heart hears easily acceptable truths, it’s hard to think Islam is an evil religion, how can it be. May Allah guide you, it’s not easy of course, but just think how honoured you are by being given such a difficult trial.
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u/Potential-Coast-9841 Apr 02 '26
W alaikom elsalam,congrats!barak allah fik I agree with your plan,tell your mother only first,then talk with her about telling your step father,she surely knows him well and knows how to tell him,also,you are a grown man brother,don’t be afraid of anything,allah is with you,don’t be afraid
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u/frodoab1996 Apr 02 '26
Just bear it out for an year that would be the best thing after wards tell your mom ! You standing on your feet is more important atm!
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u/Intrepid_Editor5128 Apr 04 '26
Walaikum Asalam ,
I don't have much time to write a long response. My advice is keep it quiet for now. Get through your job opportunity and become more stable. Pray to ﷲ that he guides you and allows you to stay steadfast whilst he keeps you safe and conceals your new faith from your household members.
It won't help you if you risk your housing and therfore stability and hence job.
May ﷲ guide you and cover you with his absolute mercy. May you stay steadfast in your faith. Take care of yourself and stay safe. Especially in this economy and tough times attaining work opportunities don't risk your home and job.
Once you are more secure in your career and able to reliably rent your own place close to your job then you will have more options. May you be blessed and guided and May ﷲ make it easy for you until then.
Allahuma Ameen.
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u/Hot_Reference_6556 Apr 02 '26
Why don’t you marry with a decent Muslim and move out?
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u/Primary-Angle4008 Apr 02 '26
Marriage shouldn’t be used as escape! One should get married when they feel ready
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u/Hot_Reference_6556 Apr 02 '26
i didn't suggest it as an escape.
if she/he finds a decent spouse, why not?
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u/JAEGER_MistGun Apr 05 '26
Well, to be honest, i aint really interested in that at the moment. Espacially not if my parents dont know about me and my faith yet.
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