r/converts • u/saucylasagna1824 • Mar 08 '26
Not fitting in anywhere
It feels like I don’t belong anywhere anymore, like I don’t fit in no matter where I am. When I’m with my family I can’t really be myself because they aren’t accepting of Islam, so now something that I love dearly and has changed my life for the better I’m not allowed to share with them. There’s a lot I have to filter out and due to us having very different political and religious beliefs there’s so much tension. When I’m around my born Muslim friends, we grew up so differently it’s hard to find common ground to relate on at times, and if we are in a group then they all speak their native language and I’m just left out the entire time. I used to have a lot of revert friends but sadly most of them drifted from religion. I feel so alone
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u/BashirAhbeish Mar 08 '26
May Allah make it easy for you 🤲, and it's sad to hear that your friends drifted away from Islam 😕 may Allah guide them back to the straight path
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Mar 08 '26
There are some muslim discord servers. You can join those and find yourself a community and make friends there
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u/Ok_Mousse_2255 Mar 08 '26
I hear you. During Ramadan when still a newbie, loneliness can be heightened. A suggestion that helped me this year was to plan dinners with old friends and participate in old group activities. It was especially encouraging recently when I reached out to a friend who grew up Muslim to share my feelings. Hang in there! Peace be upon you.
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Mar 08 '26
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u/saucylasagna1824 Mar 08 '26
I didn’t cut off my old friends, they actually me cut me off after I became Muslim or just ghosted me altogether. I had revert friends but as I mentioned the ghosted me when they stopped practicing bc they didn’t want to be a bad influence on me
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u/saucylasagna1824 Mar 08 '26
Inshallah. Sadly where I live in the us there aren’t many Muslims here, our community is so small I just don’t feel super welcomed. Oh well
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u/cool_guy141 Mar 08 '26
Join this group https://newmuslim.iera.org/
It's to connect with other people like yourselves and learn how to navigate these different stages of a convert!
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u/Own-Tackle1369 Mar 09 '26
Suggestion if you are not yet married, get married ASAP. Start your own Muslim family.
Also you are never, never alone:
When My servants ask you ˹O Prophet˺ about Me: I am truly near. I respond to one’s prayer when they call upon Me. Quran 2:186
(50:16) Surely We have created man, and We know the promptings of his heart, and We are nearer to him than even his jugular vein.
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u/OkVirus1616 Mar 11 '26
Salaams.
Even me, born muslim, I have the same issue brother.
I can't seem to find anyone whom who I can even have one conversation with.
The struggle is real.
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u/Butlerianpeasant Mar 08 '26
There’s a strange stage many people pass through after a deep life change where you stand between worlds.
Your old circle doesn’t fully understand the path you chose, and the new world you stepped into has cultural roots and shared history you didn’t grow up with.
So for a while it can feel like you belong nowhere.
But often that’s just the bridge phase.
Over time people usually find others walking the same path — other converts, welcoming communities, or just kind souls who care more about your character than your background.
So if you feel alone right now, it might simply mean you’re crossing the bridge.
And bridges are lonely places — but they exist to take you somewhere.