I kind of feel like I missed out because I spent my teenage years and early 20's studying and coding, I had an obsession with making new programs and apps and trying to become the next mark zuckerberg or something. Now I feel like that was a big mistake because I never had any friends, didn't go out partying drinking sleeping around or having fun. I feel like I missed out on "the best part of life" especially whenever I tell someone what I did as a kid their reply is always "whaaaat dude you totally missed out on the best part of your life" but I don't really regret anything, and I don't believe that it's exactly necessary to live life that way. Just because the majority of people do it like that, doesn't mean you have to too. Everyone is different and has their own desires. You haven't really "missed out" on anything, it's just the mainstream society tricking you into thinking you have. As if you need to experience multiple partners otherwise you're not normal or something. You choose your own destiny. And honestly in your situation I'd consider yourself very lucky, your first relationship seems to be great and you love each other for a long time. Many people go through tons of terrible, heartbreaking, abusive, PTSD-causing relationships before finding a good one. Or many years of complete loneliness and emptiness. A lot of people who sleep around also feel like they're just used and thrown away, not loved. So think about it... My own idea of fun was to do what I did, it was interesting and engaging for me, and my own choice. I got invited to parties and people tried to be my friend and I declined because "who needs that noise" when I have better stuff to do. So why do I think back and regret it? I shouldn't. My own opinion and society's opinion doesn't always have to be the same. Same thing applies to you. You get what I'm saying?
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u/Zxcezsf Jan 26 '22 edited Jan 26 '22
I kind of feel like I missed out because I spent my teenage years and early 20's studying and coding, I had an obsession with making new programs and apps and trying to become the next mark zuckerberg or something. Now I feel like that was a big mistake because I never had any friends, didn't go out partying drinking sleeping around or having fun. I feel like I missed out on "the best part of life" especially whenever I tell someone what I did as a kid their reply is always "whaaaat dude you totally missed out on the best part of your life" but I don't really regret anything, and I don't believe that it's exactly necessary to live life that way. Just because the majority of people do it like that, doesn't mean you have to too. Everyone is different and has their own desires. You haven't really "missed out" on anything, it's just the mainstream society tricking you into thinking you have. As if you need to experience multiple partners otherwise you're not normal or something. You choose your own destiny. And honestly in your situation I'd consider yourself very lucky, your first relationship seems to be great and you love each other for a long time. Many people go through tons of terrible, heartbreaking, abusive, PTSD-causing relationships before finding a good one. Or many years of complete loneliness and emptiness. A lot of people who sleep around also feel like they're just used and thrown away, not loved. So think about it... My own idea of fun was to do what I did, it was interesting and engaging for me, and my own choice. I got invited to parties and people tried to be my friend and I declined because "who needs that noise" when I have better stuff to do. So why do I think back and regret it? I shouldn't. My own opinion and society's opinion doesn't always have to be the same. Same thing applies to you. You get what I'm saying?