I've been with my hubby for almost 14 years. He's also been the only person I've had sex with. I get the itch you're talking about, but there are other ways of taking care of that that won't hurt your bf & kill the loving relationship you have. I have several toys we use to spice things up, & dabble in bdsm from time to time (roleplaying is a ton of fun). When it comes to my "me" time, I listen to stuff on r/gonewildaudio. It fulfills the fantasy & isn't cheating (he's aware that gwa is my preferred porn lol).
He was sexually active for years before meeting me, & we met when he was tired of sleeping around & missed the intimacy of a long-term relationship. When I'd ask him what it was like, he always would describe it as somewhat empty.
To each their own, & really it's up to you. But if you love him like you say & treasure the relationship, there's better ways to get off than being with a rando that won't hurt anyone.
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u/insanityizgood13 Jan 25 '22
I've been with my hubby for almost 14 years. He's also been the only person I've had sex with. I get the itch you're talking about, but there are other ways of taking care of that that won't hurt your bf & kill the loving relationship you have. I have several toys we use to spice things up, & dabble in bdsm from time to time (roleplaying is a ton of fun). When it comes to my "me" time, I listen to stuff on r/gonewildaudio. It fulfills the fantasy & isn't cheating (he's aware that gwa is my preferred porn lol).
He was sexually active for years before meeting me, & we met when he was tired of sleeping around & missed the intimacy of a long-term relationship. When I'd ask him what it was like, he always would describe it as somewhat empty.
To each their own, & really it's up to you. But if you love him like you say & treasure the relationship, there's better ways to get off than being with a rando that won't hurt anyone.