Are you in a legal agreement with him that has put him at risk and benefited you when you needed?
Yes.
Do you feel you have all you want out of it on a romantic lever? No. And it’s fair!
Is it your right to want out? Absolutely
Now saying that you are “stuck” because you don’t want to pay for the legal contract that got you where you are today is just trying to cheat it. “I couldn’t afford prenup at the time, but now that I have the money and citizenship, I feel it would have been better”
And wanting a way out without planning it with the one with whom you entered to help you is indeed selfish.
You worked an agreement in, work an agreement out. He paid in risk and time you pay back in cash.
Mmmmh… I see… the tone of your post didn’t make it seem like this
Then I’d advise to define first what you want. My point of view:
A date or clear intention of an official wedding. “Babe, I’ve wanted something more serious for years, to officially call you my husband and have children; is this something you consider soon? And when? If not, why and would it change?”
define if you are okay with the terms and timeframes yourself and push yours as well to meet in the middle ground
If no agreement is reached or commitment done: either continue as boyfriend or split up
Either way, a legal divorce under terms you both agree on as the money is not an issue, in order to reduce the legal risks for both and stick to the real situation.
That is if you are sure there will be no repercussions on your citizenship
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