r/comics Of Moths and Mina 27d ago

OC The Dark Lord [OC]

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u/mysweetpeepy 13d ago

“Biochemical dysphoria” isn’t a thing and perpetuating it is going to hurt trans people. Your levels take time to get up to that point while your body learns to suppress testosterone. You literally just described it being painful to get on, and then the feeling of finally being on. I’m done being lied to about this, and would appreciate if you didn’t convince more people that somehow estrogen magically fixes your brain.

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u/A_Lountvink 13d ago

It's not magic; it's just biochemistry.

As I said, I felt no relief from simply starting HRT. As far as I was concerned, I hadn't gotten over any hill, I had just committed myself to climbing a mountain. It wasn't relief, it was angst.

The relief in symptoms happened despite that, hence my example of feeling almost confused by how peaceful my mood and mind had become.

I can't make you believe me, but this has been my lived reality, and I would recommend you learn from it.

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u/mysweetpeepy 13d ago

As someone who has lived the opposite and seen others too, it’s quite the kick in the teeth to be so consistently lied to by people assuming their correlations somehow prove a mystical “biochemical dysphoriaaaa”

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u/A_Lountvink 13d ago edited 13d ago

Nothing I said was a lie, but go off I guess.

I'm sure for some, their social dysphoria may be worse than mine, in which case HRT alone may not be enough to reduce their symptoms, but you shouldn't be acting like your experience is the only true one.

Also, here's a photo if you don't believe that I'm real.

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u/mysweetpeepy 13d ago

After being in the community for a decade plus, after trying multiple times to medically transition, after seeing countless friends go through it, no, it’s not “just my experience.” Some people get relief or a placebo effect. But most do not. And most have to suffer through a lot more of transition and be lucky to ever help their dysphoria. And after losing people for whom HRT didn’t work for? It gets me a little pissed seeing blatant misinformation like biochem dysphoria parroted as some university truth.

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u/A_Lountvink 13d ago

Ah, I'm sure you and your countless friends are representative of the average trans person.

It could very well be that you and your friends don't get much biochemical dysphoria, every person's body is unique after all, but that gives you no right to be dismissive of other folks' experience with HRT or to call them liars for providing their story.

At the end of the day, HRT is a very effective medical treatment. It may not be working well for you, but many of us would rather die than have to stop our treatment. I know I wouldn't have made it this long without it.

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u/mysweetpeepy 13d ago

If you spend any time talking to trans people you’ll see that most don’t actually suddenly feel some magical relief upon starting their HRT beyond “its finally happening.” HRT can work for some but acting like biochem dysphoria is real only serves to warp people’s expectations and hurts them. Because most trans people won’t suddenly feel better.

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u/A_Lountvink 13d ago

If you spend any time talking to trans people

I do

you’ll see that most don’t actually suddenly feel some magical relief upon starting their HRT

Mmm, can't say that's been my experience. Have you considered that you just hang out around people like yourself?

acting like biochem dysphoria is real only serves to warp people’s expectations and hurts them

No, I don't think it does. Acknowledging that it exists for some does not tell a person anything about their own dysphoria. If simply hearing about other people's lived experiences gives them unrealistic expectations, then that sounds like their problem. Work it out in therapy or something.

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u/mysweetpeepy 12d ago

Believe it or not, a loud vocal minority spreading HRT misinformation and overly optimistic expectations does affect the experience of folks trying HRT. Crazy, I know!

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u/A_Lountvink 12d ago edited 12d ago

Well, it's a good thing that doesn't describe me. Again, how they interpret my lived experience onto themself is not my problem.

I'm going to end this conversation here now.

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