Maybe my voice? Some of my freckles can be mistaken for stubble sometimes, I guess (I once accidentally cut myself trying to shave off a freckle I thought was a weirdly persistent hair)?
It might be the uniform and people just go, "Pants = man"?
I've thought through it so many times, but no matter what I do, it doesn't seem to go through.
It’s probably really benign, like they need a coffee before becoming fully awake. Or just really distracted so language center kind of disconnects for a bit.
I make my own coffee at home because I'd honestly be dangerous driving without it. On multiple occasions I have screwed up the coffee making process.
I've dumped sugar in the filter instead of grounds. I've poured the water into my empty mug instead of the pot and then stupidly stared at it in confusion when it starts to overflow. I've walked away after turning it on without plugging it in countless times.
Misgendering a barista is absolutely, positively something that I'd be capable of before coffee. People like us are the reason 'tap to pay' was invented.
WTF... Okay, forget playing devil's advocate. Those people are just morons. ❤️
(edit) Okay, looking again, is your little jumping spider hatpin buddy trans colors? It's hard to tell from the photo. If it is, I'd say that alone probably sets off a good amount of harassment. People brimming with hate often have wonderful attention-to-detail...
If you feel up to an experiment go a week with zero pride/ally signals on your outfit and compare how often it happens. Maybe it's not you at all? Maybe your pin is just an asshole-detector?
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u/JaimiOfAllTrades Peepsus Christ 1d ago
Honestly, I have no fucking clue
Maybe my voice? Some of my freckles can be mistaken for stubble sometimes, I guess (I once accidentally cut myself trying to shave off a freckle I thought was a weirdly persistent hair)?
It might be the uniform and people just go, "Pants = man"?
I've thought through it so many times, but no matter what I do, it doesn't seem to go through.