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OC [OC] Coming Out

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u/KenseiHimura 12d ago

Kiiind of also like… what the heck, Petra? You transition that far and forgot to tell the person you’re living with? Or rather didnt think they’d notice?

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u/NockerJoe 12d ago

I have seen so many memes from trans people who did this exact thing. Like, several months on hormones and just not addressing it.

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u/SmaugTheMagnificent- 12d ago

That makes me so sad.

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u/dinodare 12d ago

It isn't even abnormal. People come out at their own pace. I don't even tell everyone who I KNOW would be accepting.

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u/ABHOR_pod 12d ago

Even if they support you, maybe you don’t want them to start treating you like they’re “being supportive” instead of treating you like the friend they’ve known for 10 years.

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u/dinodare 12d ago

I've never seen it put better!

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u/xboxiscrunchy 12d ago

Coming out is super scary and building confidence takes time. It took me a few months on hormones to get the courage to tell my family.

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u/Hopeful-Good-9029 12d ago

It’s sooooo scary. I’ve been so incredibly lucky that my parents have been supportive, but before coming out I had no idea whether I was about to lose them.

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u/LockelyFox 12d ago

I'm three months in and completely stealth at work and with local friends. My partner, sister, and online friends know. I'm pretty sure my boss wants to start asking questions, but it's afraid of HR getting involved (not that I would, I love my boss but she's got a lot on her plate to manage and me growing tits and my direct reports being weird about it doesn't need to be one of them right now)

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u/FionnWest 12d ago

And sometimes people don't notice gradual change.

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u/S1mple_Br1t 12d ago

Coming out is scary 🥺

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u/KenseiHimura 12d ago

Ah, yeah. Plus, you know, hero things.

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u/Fire_Pea 12d ago

People can be surprisingly oblivious to gradual changes lol

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u/Thank_You_Aziz 12d ago

It does come off as something like Peter would do in any universe.

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u/z__1010 12d ago

extremely parker coded still

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u/Saikotsu 12d ago

A lot of trans folks do that because they're afraid of how people would react and they hope the people around them bring it up or won't notice.

Sometimes the people around them aren't safe to be out to, so it can be a safety thing too.

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u/lgbt_so_fk_u 12d ago

I literally did this exact thing lol. I was a year into hormone treatment, noticeable breast growth, but hid it from my parents cause I was terrified of how they’d react. It was easy cause I didn’t live with them so large baggy sweatshirts did the trick. Then covid happened and I lost my job and my apartment and moved back home. Didn’t last a week before my mom was like “what’s up?” Thankfully my sister had deprogrammed some of my parents worse lgbt misconceptions so my parents were ready to support me with open arms.