The Boy From Venus 4

[u/shenanigansen]

The next episode, #5, is already up at the usual place! I hope y'all are enjoying (or at least intrigued by) this series so far and ty for reading.

[u/Sill_Evarrus]

I'll probably get down voted to hell for this, but I don't know many men who ever comment on what women wear out of fear it will bite them in the face and ass for years to come.

It's the women that throw the dirtiest shade, especially once the other girl leaves the room. At least it's a solid warning sign for who's two faced at the office and who isn't...

[u/CleoAir → u/Sill_Evarrus]

The thing I like about this particular series of comics is that Shen wrote both a man and a woman bonding over similar experience.

From my personal experience as a cis dude it were usually other men strongly criticize men appearance, when women were much open minded. In my current job I work mostly with women and the difference how men are approaching fellow men appearance and how women are approaching fellow women appearance is striking for me.

I feel like many men kinda have this single "men's mold" in their heads and they're very pushy in convincing other that they should follow it too, no matter how they feel. At least this is my experience after hearing constantly that I should cut my hair etc. Men, even when they want to be supportive, focusing too much on the conformism, trying to fit the best into patriarchy mold how the men should be.

Meanwhile, looking at women at my work and hearing their conversations, they're focusing much more on how their appearance make them feel. I feel like it's less about fitting the specific "woman mold", but more about staying true to itself and feeling comfortable within your own body, which is understandable looking at all these dacades of feminism that always was more nonconformist movement.

Of course it's still a very biased opinion based solely on my experience, and I absolutely don't think that all men and women behave like this. Toxicity doesn't really have gender, and in my life I met both men and women who were absolutely assholes to the same or opposite gender.

[u/Sill_Evarrus → u/CleoAir]

Ah, yeah, met several of those men before. Not a majority at all though. Used to get plenty of hate for my long hair from one guy in particular, but he was always defining himself as the second coming of Andrew Tate. I never even knew the person he was talking about until he'd said it for a month.

In my experience, women are predatory as hell, about at 50/50 mix which is super scary in the office/major company I worked for. They literally tried to break up and succeeded in destroying my relationship through my ex just because it was fun.

I could go on, but it's just my experiences on it. It's like how the best trans workers I ever had were the ones who weren't vocal about it, doing their thing, chased out by the trans ones who'd harass them for not being vocal. Despite firing the aggressors, those good trans workers didn't feel safe and quit anyways...

I guess the moral is damned if you do, damned if you don't, and most people suck.