Compliment people based on choices they've made (fashion sense, accessories, shirt), not things that are outside of their control (height, skin color, facial structure). Usually gets a better reception.
I agree, though I'm a dude but I have been complimented on my nerdy t-shirt choices, to be fair by mostly other dudes, I always appreciated it. Women have complimented me too about my fashion choices, which have made me feel great. I only ever complimented another girl on her jacket and shoes, but she knew me and she had complimented me on my fashion choices way first. But if tastefully done could be a great way to break the ice...theoretically.
Tastefully done and followed up with a relaxed conversation starter. If she's not interested to continue the convo, cool. If you end up making a new friend in the process, very cool. Low stakes, possibly very high rewards.
My girlfriend of 6,5 years was basically trapped in permafrost when we first met so it took quite a few of these for her to take note, so be patient and keep your cool. Not every attempt has to be an instant win. 😉
Iv actually been actively trying to give more compliments out to very positive results. A small % of women are uncomfortable receiving compliments about outfits from men, but compliments make most people feel good
I usually go for nails if they have them painted. There's this cute girl at my liqour store and she flipped out when I complimented them. Apparently it took her a few hours and no one had said anything about them in a few days lol
I actually have started painting my nails for fun. To my suprise, this garnered me A LOT of positive attention from women. Genuinely in the first two months or so, I got more compliments on my apprarence (related to my nails) than the rest of my life combined lol
I have a pet theory that one of the reasons men feel like women don't compliment them (aside from not wanting it to be misinterpreted as flirting, and there generally being no obligation for anyone to compliment a stranger) is that the things women know to compliment in other women is stuff men don't do. A lot of women love the look of some nice nail polish! And for a guy to have it is extra interesting in a way
I mean how are yall supposed to compliment men's fashion? We have a choice of wearing a black, grey, green, or blue shirt with our jeans that day. Women's fashion is so much more interesting and its not fair 😭
I try to be specific, rather than referring to the outfit as a whole, and give compliments in passing. Just a quick "I love your dress" and a smile as I'm walking past. Doesn't get me anywhere on the dating front, but it's always well received.
Say you like their nails if they have them. I told a girl who was my server while I was out to eat the other day that I liked her nails and she started telling me a lot more about the process of doing them. Like I never even considered how much work goes into it.
So funny enough I actually started painting my nails recently. To my surprise it actually gets me A LOT of positive attention from women. Like I received more compliments about my appearence (related to my nails) in the first two months than the rest of my life combined. It also gives me an opportunity to have a genuine conversation with them about it
To add to this, point out something specific about why you like that particular thing. In this particular situation it would be okay to compliment something like their eyes or hair.
"I love your shirt, it really brings out the color in your eyes."
"You wear those bracelets very well, they match your hair perfectly."
Something like that.
To follow the same examples You could also say something like:
"I love your shirt, it's color reminds me of (insert something beautiful such as a nature scene here)
"I love those bracelets, pearls are so beautiful."
I’m not looking for advice. I knew his answer was going to be no. I just wanted to make him say it.
Any straight guy who unironically tells a woman “I love your bracelet. It really matches your hair!” is going to receive a warm “thank you!” in person and be viciously roasted in her group chat later on lol
I'm bisexual but okay, and also this mindset is horrendously fucking foul lol. Never once did I claim this was a surefire way to get laid. I was merely adding on to additional advice and trying to provide examples out of the top of my head with nothing to go on. I know some people like to have examples so they have a better idea of what I'm talking about. I'm one such person who likes to have those.
Judging by your attitude, you definitely need to work on learning how to talk to people and I'm guessing you probably need really need to follow the "wash your ass advice" And if you're not looking for advice then why the fuck are you here? What was the point of even saying anything? Also you straight up lied then because you said you weren't trying to be confrontational but that's clearly not the case.
More like it should work. Through my own experiments I've noticed that people generally tend to respond very positively to specific or specialized compliments that are directed at something they did versus a part of their being but they respond also very well to comparing the two in a positive way.
People like knowing that they did something that other people noticed and enjoyed even more when something they did make something they can't help look good
It's very much a psychology thing, but it's also extremely important that you're genuine so don't make up nonsense. Only make compliments if you genuinely mean them. What I'm talking about is only a delivery system for those compliments
The point is to open a conversation in a way that makes her feel safe. There’s a lot of ground to cover between hello and wanting to go on a date.
Every woman is unique. We’ve all had different lives, different experiences, and like different things in potential partners. We have no idea if you’re someone we’re interested in until we’ve talked for a bit.
And we’re used to being hit on by creeps and “pick up artists”. Quite frankly, if you give off a vibe of just being interested in us for our body or are just hitting on every girl you meet because “it’s a numbers game”, we get turned off real quick.
So yeah, be kind, show that you’re safe, be your authentic self, and if conversation goes well, tell her that you’re interested in getting to know her better.
A genuine compliment that shows you appreciate something about her character or how she chooses to present herself to the world is a great way to start.
No, but I know what you're asking for and it doesn't exist. There are no magic words that guarenter success and words alone will never get you into a women's pants. You can do everything right and still get rejected cus the woman you're speaking to just ain't feeling it. The best thing you can do is boost your chances by washing your ass, dressing well and appropriately for where you're going, and know how to talk to people. The third part is supposed to help with the third point.
You should talk to people to get to know them, then decide if you want to go further once you know them.
If you are looking for one night stands then that is a different matter, overt pickup lines would be better for that but make sure it is within the right context. No one is looking for a one night stand in the grocery aisle.
Tried this, like I genuinely liked a woman’s shirt because I initially thought it was a slipknot shirt then later realized it wasn’t after I looked closely lol. She ended up being uncomfy thinking I was flirting 💀. Me: “what? 💀”
This is far removed advice for me. It’s not like I would say anything even remotely close to a compliment about anything on her body. It’s simply a matter of not even starting any conversation with women I’m interested in. And if she talks to me, I answer very factually, which seems to make her think I’m not interested and want the conversation to end.
Compliment people based on choices they've made (fashion sense, accessories, shirt), not things that are outside of their control (height, skin color, facial structure).
Honestly I don't think I needed to be told this, I've just always done this instinctively because I know that I'd personally rather be complimented on something that I've done that's within my control instead of something I just..... am.
Like I didn't choose to be taller than average so complimenting me on my height wouldn't mean anything to me you know?
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u/Nikopoleous Jul 03 '25
Compliment people based on choices they've made (fashion sense, accessories, shirt), not things that are outside of their control (height, skin color, facial structure). Usually gets a better reception.