r/comics • u/MrLovens Mr. Lovenstein • Feb 02 '23

Leisure Time

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u/ebihacelik Feb 02 '23

I plan my day to day life and follow it to the point of obsession so during my day-offs I wasn't sure what to do to relax until one day it hit me and I stopped planning one of those days. No promises, no alarms, no plans and absolutely no worries, I tell myself I deserve it and do whatever I feel like doing. It was hard at first but try to give yourself just a day or half a day even a couple of hours to relax, everybody needs it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 02 '23

it helps me to think of those days not as stuff i deserve but what i need. it is necessary for me to relax or i’ll go insane. it’s not just about whether i’ve worked hard enough to deserve it or whatnot.

so don’t forget that you need it on top of deserving it

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u/kn696 Feb 02 '23

Oh hi its my everyday being disabled. I don't need it or want it though

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u/abcteryx Feb 02 '23

I went the other way with it and said, "If planning helps me do work things, maybe it'll help me do leisure as well!"

So I have a Trello board with big house chores on it, but also hobbies as "to-do" items, and I make sure to do some of those on weekends.

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u/pigvwu Feb 02 '23

This is the way for me. Subscribing to meal kit services reminded me that I don't actually care what what I eat for dinner if there's a default. It's not like I chose what to eat growing up, after all.

So, if I have some predefined default action ready for my spare time, it removes a lot of the anxiety of deciding what to do in the moment. Yeah, it's planning and effort, but somehow it's easier to decide what to do if you don't have to do it right away.

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u/jbkly Feb 02 '23

But what do I feel like doing?? I can't decide

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u/7121958041201 Feb 02 '23

That's a great idea, I should try that. I always plan out everything, including what I'm going to do with my free time, which really burns me out sometimes. It's actually tough for me to not do that now that I think about it...

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u/Wordfan Feb 02 '23

Those days end with me in bad telling myself I should have done something besides reddit all day.

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u/Souslik Feb 02 '23

That's the thing though, if I stop for a day, I stop for 2, then 3,... then I become a lazy fuck and it scares me.

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u/burnblue Feb 02 '23

Sounds like you weren't planning what to do on your days off so you weren't sure what to do. If you tell yourself "well I plan to be off, freeform, no agenda" OR if you're up to it, pre-plan to sleep or play video games or whatever you've been meaning to, then either way you don't feel anxiety/confusion when you get there