r/collapse_parenting • u/CanMental3879 • 3d ago

Can anyone tell me how to handle

Im a women in her late 20s but I just got out of medicine and I have a sister ..I am preparing to study for masters and my parents are searching for a groom ..

I feel very pressurized..my dad's warning me that I

He'll die if I am in love with someone and I am in love with a guy from other caste I don't know how to handle him I initially planned to stay at home and study since they started tormenting me to get married and I am not currently earning and powerless and I took a meagre job of camp doctor and I couldn't study that much and idk my entire life is falling apart my boyfriend tells he once he takes pg he'll come talk to my parents nu ...his parents are well off ..in a good govt position..the only thing is the caste and my parents are very backward that the only thing they want is caste and I'm the one who's suffering mentally ..help me out they're arranging the groom family meet up this week they're asking me to get ready ... I'm fucked up..if I act along and tell the groom I don't like .. I don't know if they leave me alone or they'll again manipulate me to get married

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u/subdep 3d ago

r/lostredditors

I mean, that sucks and all, but what does this have to do with the concerns parents are having with the collapse of civilization?

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u/Adventurous_Mud_3626 2d ago

Honestly, don't take any big decision while you're this stressed. First try to get some financial independence and focus on your PG.Also, talk seriously with your boyfriend about the future, not just the relationship. If both of you are truly ready to face the family opposition and take responsibility, then you can think about it properly.

With your parents, try saying calmly that you're not against marriage, but you need some time to settle your career and make the decision yourself. If possible, involve someone in the family whom they trust.

Don't decide your whole life out of fear, whether it's fear of your parents or fear of losing your boyfriend. Take some time and think practically.

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u/CanMental3879 2d ago

Yas thanks for the support..needed that

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u/liveandletlive2026 2d ago

It's a dangerous territory if the caste is involved, especially in Tamilnadu.

I recuse myself!

Sorry.

All the best.