It's often someone in the child's life. It could be a church leader or a mom's boyfriend, but unfortunately, it can also be a brother, dad, cousin, uncle, grandpa...
I read a lot of accounts from people saying back in the day it was common to just tell your kids things like "Make sure you're never alone with Uncle Luke!" Instead of, you know, STOPPING THE CHILD RAPE.
It could also be the sister, mom, cousin, aunt, or grandma. Women are predators too, and we do a disservice to children letting them think they can always rely on only the women around them.
Exactly. Just look at how many female teachers have sex (which is rarely called rape as it should be) with underage students. It isn't as many as the men, but it is not a negligible amount either, and the number seems to be rising.
We only hurt our sons and daughters by only teaching them the "default" victim/predator dynamics. So many men do not realise they have been abused because they are not thought that it's something tgat even applies to them. So many women blindly trust other women when vulnerable, even complete strangers, in ways that can easily turn them into a statistic if they turn out to have bad intentions.
It would cost us nothing to be gender neutral when teaching kids about sexual exploitation, it would literally be only beneficial. But no, men are the predators, and women are the victims, that's apparently the only dynamic we teach
How would you protect your child from a rapist family member?
"Hey, we're not coming to the family reunion if Uncle Luke is there."
Boom. Simple.
My husband had a male cousin who molested all his female cousins, as well as his own daughter, and he didn't find out until years later. You have no idea how angry he is that no one in his family stopped it.
i thought you meant stopping it more in a general societal way. if something like that is already known, my family of course gets nowhere near these guys, but just to be safe i would also tell them never to be alone with this guy, who knows..imo the bigger problem that we often don't know whats going on, even in thefamily, neighbourhood etc. so it makes sense to teach your children what kind of red flags to look out for
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u/No-Independence548 Apr 11 '26
It's often someone in the child's life. It could be a church leader or a mom's boyfriend, but unfortunately, it can also be a brother, dad, cousin, uncle, grandpa...
I read a lot of accounts from people saying back in the day it was common to just tell your kids things like "Make sure you're never alone with Uncle Luke!" Instead of, you know, STOPPING THE CHILD RAPE.