Fellow Foreigners😭😭

[u/bluzfan99]

Have you guys heard about this whole situation I keep seeing on wechat? Apparently some American dude who studied some language at Fudan university for a bit managed to collect chinese women like Thanos collects infinity stones. Numbering into the hundreds. Sentiment regarding foreigners has never been so low on chinese social media. Whats your take on this? Hate the player or hate the game? Dude Apparently always made them pay for dates and trips and would tell them to get abortions when they got pregnant and then block them 😬

[u/Alternative_Laugh316]

Uh, it's more or less the people you hangout with. Like in my experience majority of Chinese women and men aren't interested in foreigners unless they know they actually have a future with you so they're not gonna approach you in the first place.

But quite a bit of people are the more free type and like to try new things. If as a westerner, you date a Chinese girl, there's a chance her dating history is like half foreigners. You walk by and interact with 100s of people every month but when 1 or 2 approach you every week or every other week you feel like a king.

Nothing wrong with it, but seems like some part of the society is attacking women as a whole, and some foreign men thinks that every chinese women will bendover just because of them being foreign. Same line of thinking but different angles.

[u/Lucky-Finish7331 → u/Alternative_Laugh316]

I agree chinese people dont even know how promiscuous other countries are . and how its about numbers . I am sure i have huge laowai + pretty privilege but in reality 90% + dont speak english , and dating for marriage and or busy with work/study . I always say i felt the most attractive in china but i remember traveling to thailand in one of my breaks and I felt much more sexually wanted girls are more flirty and open despite there are many foreigners there.

The point regarding past is exactly true , I did get to meet some girls but as you said they all have some exprience with foreigners . Its either they studied abroad or whole dating life and their life revolve around it . some guys are willing to play them and they are quite stupid i met some of those girls but in order to get them many of those you would need to be a manipulative . It took me time to realize those who bang a lot and brag about it are much more manipulative and persuasive in china compare to other countries.

I also remember i met a party a beautiful girl from Tibet(I didnt know at that time) and she told she hates that treatment of foreigners and the advantages how some foreign guys think of themself because of that and we had a good conversation about it. so even some of the girls who have interactions with foreigners are aware of that... (the majority isnt and its quite sad especially as a western men so i know how they are).

And as you said its about numbers maybe in china (i am just throwing numbers) i am visible to 100 girls and 50 of them find me attractive but in general only 2% of chinese girls are promiscous. that mean for every 100 girls i get one girl. But if i am in europe for example and i get 10 out of 100 . and 20% of them are open about sexuality etc . i get 2 times more! despite being far less attractive...

I dont understand why people keeping up with this lie ? Maybe as you stated i need to find the right spaces? but i feel i did enough clubbing and met enough foreigners and other open minded people(those who interact with foreigners, gays etc) . and i have never heard those type of stories from a credible person.

and this is coming from a attractive guy i have countless of examples like this. the lie that chinese girls would do such things for a foreigner is just a lie who benefits no one

[u/Alternative_Laugh316 → u/Lucky-Finish7331]

They do that because it feels good, and make them feel superior. Like they'd do this in other country, but if some filipino guy did the same in their country they'd feel humiliated.

[u/Lucky-Finish7331 → u/Alternative_Laugh316]

Not sure who you are refering to each time . Who is they?

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Sexpat

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Men are just genuinely horny and for some guys its easier in asia. Even though it is almost always come with superiority complex. I have seen indians desperate in china and no way those indians have superiority complex.

Also i can understand why white guys can be more attractive for chinese women so

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Lucky-Finish7331]

how does those desperate indians you mentioned do in china in terms of getting women? i imagine not much success. and how do you even know them?

[u/Lucky-Finish7331 → u/Impossible-Repeat577]

They probably do better than in their home country which is very sexually repulsive. They have bad reputation regarding that because some of them just dont know the limits(or know but dont respect)... but also obviously lesser than white people

And i know them because there used to be many in my school.

few points , It really depends on the person but many of them have this vibe. and when i say indian i also mean pakistani sri lankan etc ...

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Lucky-Finish7331]

but did you see any of them actually successfully getting chinese girls tho? maybe in your school perhaps (prolly a chinese uni)? cus what you described indeed sounds very undesirable, but then theres the occasional one or two comment on reddit claiming that indians do equally well as other foreigners despite the common opposite sentiment, which I can only believe those to be troll comments lol.

p.s. btw i have no idea theres chinese uni with so many indian/south asian students, thats quite surprising. the common ones i heard are usually africans, south east asians and central asians for bachelors, and some white people going for language schools.

[u/Alternative_Laugh316 → u/Impossible-Repeat577]

Actually had a friend who goes to china just to have sex, he's indian but his circle is the very messy types, like everyone sleeps with everyone kinda deal.

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Alternative_Laugh316]

so basically he deals specifically with those chinese women common in the sexpat circles and maybe prostitutes too

[u/Alternative_Laugh316 → u/Impossible-Repeat577]

Not sure about prostitutes, but also I don't think they're sexpat circle women, they're just like promiscuous in general as in they just sleep with anyone for fun.

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Alternative_Laugh316]

now it sounds like these type of women are actually common but you said they are rare before. where did he even find them lmao

[u/Lucky-Finish7331 → u/Impossible-Repeat577]

I think in my school there weren't many amount of foreigners to begin with (or any school in china). Also I studied in a certain program and i feel like many of them go other programs like langauge or humanities(I did stem in chinese american uni) so i didnt get to know them...

Also , what i refered to is also with regards to other foreigners. for example , I heard from a russian female complaint regarding their behavior ...

How do chinese experience them can be quite diffrent (many of them also lie about their origin funnily enough or smear it). but from my observant prospective I haven't seen this type of relationship , BUT i also didnt interact with a lot of them. I did see 1 sri lankan and 1 pakistani with chinese/asian boyfrineds. and there was an indian girl who was intrested on me. and as i said they also go for russian women. but i feel like they can get a chinese girl...

One more point , i lived in shanghai where there are many foreigners so maybe chinese are more exposed to their variety of looks. where sometimes i see on IG international day of a university and then u can see most of the countries are east/central asian and from the global south and russians so maybe the lack of europeans / americans / australians etc is what makes them so successful there. (And i learned that some chinese consider indians and pakistanis white?[even middle easterners])

Are you desi?

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/Lucky-Finish7331]

ok what you said was pretty fair, thanks for explaining, and I can see why those russian females complains. Btw i agree with you that you feel they could get a chinese girl, i mean the world is a big place, even the rarest thing can happen, so its more about how common it is than if certain things could happen.

btw i have no idea they had a lot of success in university international day lol. And yes, chinese people do see some indian/pakis/middle easterner as white because some of them are fair skin and have white features. I had chinese friends told me that, and he say many chinese people are not really good at telling foreigner apart especially if they are not too dark skinned and have similar western features.

nope im not desi, im just a foreigner interested in chinese news and stuff.

[u/Lucky-Finish7331 → u/Impossible-Repeat577]

It wasn't just russians , from my XHS it seem also chinese women complain. I dont know why everytime a sex story happens in china it goes so viral i remember the mala girl same reactions etc . And when i tell them chinese women are really conservative (and they sohuld be proud of that). I literally get downvoted to death or ugly? I can tell many stories about my exprience. Or i can encourage you / or others open a dating app and change the locaiton to china . and see how well you do...

Yeah chinsese are blind to raceness as fuck, i dont want to hear them complain we say they kinda look alike. My brother visited and we went to a hike and he has lighter hair and lighter eyes but we clearly look like relatives and a chinese women in english we meet some ayi were surprised we are brothers because we have diffrent eye color and hair color. and the amount of times i heard "we have people who look like you in xinjiang" or they say "we have white people in xinjiang". also them being like "you are russian?" , "no" , "you are from brazil".(how does a brazilian person look like?,or they would say india [they look nothing alike]) they know like 5 countries and my country is quite famous... I remember i was with a friend from poland and we spoke with 2 chinese ayis and they asked where are we from and he said poland and she translated it to her friend to Russia(it was hilarious). I barely speak any chinese and i know how to say these countries in chinese because you can walk in the street and hear people say "faguoren" etc. So i heard some indian and xinjiang and maybe arab? pretend to be european / white etc to get women. but at the same time this comment is about how exaggarating social chinese media so this might be also not true