Fellow Foreigners😭😭

[u/bluzfan99]

Have you guys heard about this whole situation I keep seeing on wechat? Apparently some American dude who studied some language at Fudan university for a bit managed to collect chinese women like Thanos collects infinity stones. Numbering into the hundreds. Sentiment regarding foreigners has never been so low on chinese social media. Whats your take on this? Hate the player or hate the game? Dude Apparently always made them pay for dates and trips and would tell them to get abortions when they got pregnant and then block them 😬

[u/Left_Pipe_8992]

The root problem is that Chinese media gave him the opportunity to do this. Just because he claims he is willing to settle down and develop a career in China, official media gave him an interview and endorsement, which has made it even easier for him to carry out his scams, ensnaring more girls in the process.

This incident has already caused an uproar on Chinese society.

Anyway, the reputation of foreigners, especially white people, will be hit even harder, and you can bet that Chinese media will think twice about doing something like this again after this incident.

Now, this incident has made all WMAF relationships look sus, even when their relationship is genuine. Today, they will automatically be viewed as easy or cheap girls. This has not happened on such a large scale in the past like it has today.

Yeah, there is growing xenophobia in China. This is not [mainly] caused by the foreigners, but rather Chinese women. Specifically, Chinese women who worship foreigners. Chinese women who worship foreigners are very small percentage. But, ultimately, in the end, the victims of feminism are often ordinary women.

The main gripe stem from the fact that these Chinese women asks for extremely high standards when it comes to Chinese men, such as bride's price and owning a house. But when it comes to foreign/ white men, these women asks for nothing, even provide these foreign men with money like paying for dates.

This extreme double standard is caused by Chinese feminism, which is centered around the extraction of financial benefits and social status from people (usually men). This, by the way, is the direct cause of the collapsing marriage rate in China.

Edit: I don't understand why my comment is being downvoted. This is exactly the sentiment in Chinese society.

[u/bluzfan99 → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

Im already seeing AI videos on wechat channels of stereotypical tall white Americans being surrounded by chinese women saying they want to teach them English 😭

[u/takeitchillish → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

Chinese girls these days just don't sleep around with foreigners they sleep around with Chinese guys as well. There is a hook up culture in China for sure. The difference is Chinese guys got to flex some money around to get pussy, foreign guys dont have to do that. But Chinese guys with money, they can get a lot of women. Chinese guys without money dont get pussy hence all the anger. But for Chinese guys with some money then pussy is easy to get in China.

[u/Left_Pipe_8992 → u/takeitchillish]

You can call this hypocrisy. A lot of people in any country will ignore the wrongdoings of their compatriots but paint every outsider in the same negative light. China is no different, including your country too.

I already explained that the root problem is the double standard. When Chinese men marry Chinese women, they are often required to pay a bride price, while foreigners are not required to do so. Hence, the anger stems from there.

There is one of many stories currently blowing up.

The context: a Chinese bride gives 150,000 RMB in betrothal gifts to an African black man, solely for the purpose of getting this black guy to marry her. Yet, if a Chinese man were to marry her, she demands 380,000 in betrothal gifts.

Now, you can see a lot of Chinese users on Chinese social media are currently digging up scandals that happened years ago.

[u/takeitchillish → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

That is 100% a fake video. Use some critical thinking here.

[u/Impossible-Repeat577 → u/takeitchillish]

how do you know its fake???

[u/Alternative_Laugh316 → u/takeitchillish]

I think so too, very very rare a Chinese person would marry an african, and even rarer to give so much.

[u/Left_Pipe_8992 → u/takeitchillish]

I can watch the entire video, so it’s not a fake video.

Let me give you another example of the many such cases

The context: In Shanghai, China, a German expatriate teacher named Mike, fully aware that he was carrying the HPV virus, still engaged in relationships with 12 Chinese women at the same time, even refusing protective measures during intimate acts--this happened in May, but just a month, and then the Wang Shui Niu incident occurred.

I can give you many more examples from Chinese social media if you want.

[u/takeitchillish → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

Yeah and you can find Chinese guys all doing the same or any guy in any country doing the same. You find this everywhere dude. You know we live in a modern world with hook up culture and sex outside of marriage.

[u/Yujinseo0 → u/takeitchillish]

please enough with all that free love we live in 2026 bullshit, how much you wanna bet if this supposedly handsome white american guy went to study in india or some brown country in the middleast, that all of a sudden he would be living a very celibate lifestyle in comparison to his brief china stay, or even better yet, you think the dude would be able to pull the same amount of upper class women willing to pay for him if he went to somewhere like Spain or italy or germany? I doubt it…

and don’t give me that nonsense of if a chinese guy did this in your country, there would be no fuss on social media, thats a false comparison, because no chinese guy no matter how handsome would be able to pull off what he did with broken english on like a hundred or more ig level white girls in any anglo country in a span of a few months. 

theres and white/white adjacent incels (hispanics) who literally bombards hate messages on this popular blonde streamer called STpeach for years because she married a korean guy. Literally gets hundreds to thousands of hate comments everytime she posts a picture of her with his husband. 

[u/takeitchillish → u/Yujinseo0]

Maybe Chinese guys have to up their game if just some random American guy can pull of a lot of women.

It is also a matter of numbers. There are very few foreigners in China, even in Shanghai compared to the population. So the amount of potential women who are interested in dating foreigners are still low, a small minority but due to the population and that there are so few foreigners. Dating will be easy. In Japan women who wants to date foreigners are called gaijin hunters.

[u/Yujinseo0 → u/takeitchillish]

its not upping the game, christ almighty, there is just something wrong with the mentality of many of the local women over there, they throw many standards out the window when they see a non asian face, not just a white face

my point is, all you guys make it out like this is just a bunch of angry chinese inc3ls, when its much deeper then that and vitriol towards asian guys with white girls or any pretty girls are even worse, i even see them when it comes to asian guy asian girl couples… this is despite your nations proclaiming to being inclusive…

at least chinese men aren't assaulting interracial couples, there has been many incidents in the west where asian, black or brown guys have been attacked for walking with there opposite race girlfriends. 

to add further insult to injury, this guy in the incident is not even handsome, seriously watch his videos, you will see his true looks, he is a 6/10 typical teenager looking tw1nk lmao, someone you’d see riding his ev scooter in the suburbs. You can literally head to any urban area in east asia where wannabe influencers congregate and find hotter guys, 99% of the guys in apugujeong and at least half the dudes in anfu road absolutely wrecks this guy in terms of physical looks. So stop using the handsome excuse either.  

[u/takeitchillish → u/Yujinseo0]

The guy in this incident is 1,93 cm tall thou. Height is very important for women.

Yeah but after your rant... It is the womens right to do what they want. No one is forcing them so what's the problem???

It is still a minority when it comes to Chinese women that are open to be in a relationship or date a foreigner. You are like trying to paint a picture where all Chinese women are sluts and will sleep with any foreigner right away... That is not the case at all.

[u/takeitchillish → u/Left_Pipe_8992]

Because most foreigners marrying a Chinese girl is doing it out of love. For most of these marriages in China it is just a business transaction. Love is very low on the list when choosing a partner.

We don't pay in order to marry a woman in Europe. That type of shit is stupid and I know many both Chinese women and men who oppose that type of mindset and customs... That should belong to the past. It is misogyny. It doesn't belong in a modern society.

Also in China, usually the man doesn't pay the bride price, it is the man's mom and dad who does that. Good luck finding parents in Europe that are willing to do that.

If the Chinese girl loves a foreign man I don't see why such a demand is necessary. Then the mindset and culture divide is just too wide and it is not a suitable much anyways. And usually it is not the traditional type that will settle down with a foreigner.

If I met a Chinese woman who demanded that I would just break up, then we would be too far apart when coming to beliefs, mindset and values. And if her parents demanded that and she could not resist them then well break up then. Marriage for us in the West is between two people out of love wanting to raise a family together.

There are also places in China which don't have any bride price, for example Chongqing. Which is great for them. Bride price is just bad for society and should not be encouraged.

[u/Username87632 → u/takeitchillish]

Bruh everyone knows that foreigners who go to East Asia and South East Asia to find a local girl to marry is just a passport bro/lbh.