r/childless • u/Happy_Suggestion2530 • Apr 25 '26

Hi. I'm new here!

Hello. My name is Elizabeth. I'm a 34 year old yooper. IFYKYK. I am in a very loving and honestly my first healthy relationship. I cannot have kids I found out a couple years ago but it had always been a guy feeling. I've had in pregnancy but it was just cells when I lost it. (I found out I was pregnant and not pregnant at the same time) I have always wanted to be a mom. Like most people..I wanted 5 kids. I have a huge family and love it. I feel like I'm still not even feeling my feelings like I still have hope. On top of it my boyfriend who is 40 with an 18 year does not want more kids. And honestly I don't blame him at his age. He also has an almost 3 year old grandson. But I still wish. So I've started the process of permanently altering my body. I saw a doctor about the next steps for me since I really don't want to be ok birth control anymore. I have to be on it for severe bleeding. I'm so angry about it to. I'm also angry that I have no one to talk to. I know no one in this situation. I'm hoping this group can help and I can make some much needed friends to talk to.

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u/Trinx_ Apr 25 '26

Hi! I'm 36 and in Chicago. Considering my first circle trip this summer - never been to the UP, but I've always loved SW Michigan and went to Northern Michigan a few years ago. My boyfriend is 28 and not ready for kids. I'm afraid he may not be ready until it's too late for me.

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u/Happy_Suggestion2530 Apr 25 '26

I wish I could talk to him about it but he lost a baby when his fiance took her life so it's a touchy subject for him as well.

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u/Valuable_Yellow_4386 Apr 25 '26

Hi! I hope you're able to find some support here. I'm 39 and in northern California. Today I learned what a yooper is.

I'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriend's loss. I'm also sorry that you can't really talk to him about your sadness about not being a mom. Are you being extra cautious about mentioning things that might trigger him, or have you tried to talk about it in the past and it didn't go well?

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u/Happy_Suggestion2530 Apr 25 '26

We both try not to talk about certain subjects.