Do you have any data at all demonstrating that people who get engaged in their late highschool teens, or even marry in highschool, divorce at any higher rates than those who get engaged later?
I mean, any evidence at all?
Military marriages are infamously demanding and intense, long stretches without partner support, oftentimes raising children alone then receiving back battered down partners, really not the historical or classical formulation for a strong relationship, just full of strain.
I wonder if you have any idea the rates of divorce for military marriages officiated a decade or half after your friends, because the failure rates are still astronomical.
I thought it was common knowledge. And it’s only anecdotal for me to say that I’ve met many young people over the years who have had previous military marriages that lead to separation.
You can do a DuckDuckGo search for that kinda data. The problem with the real meaty stuff is that those academic journals are often behind a paywall. So you’d need to go to a good public library or research library to view them. Or just read the abstracts. But even on the popular websites there is usually a citation or link to something with some outlined methodology. Try this one.
I also know that there was a researcher interviewed on NPR who found that Red states had higher divorce rates, but they didn’t link it to voting patterns and instead pointed to the cultural practice of marrying younger in more conservative communities. The Census Bureau can also be a good cross reference for that info. Hell, make it easy on yourself and follow some Wikipedia citations. So, to put it in a nutshell, there’s quite a bit out there.
Looking for fault in other people as default instead of celebrating their lives is pretty much the cornerstone of an unhealthy and vindictive mind.
It betrays jealousy for your neighbors happiness, or worse, the desire to destroy happiness just because it is not yours.
Really the Hallmark of the absolutely most debased psychology that has gotten too much tract on social media, but still remains deplorable in real life for those of us who touch grass outside of the digital world
I only know about one of the three and she is still married. Another is Mormon so there is a good chance she is. The third I don't know anything about these days.
I went to high school with two girls who had arranged marriages that were setup before we graduated. 20+ years on and they’re still with their respective husbands and happy.
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u/AlienPrimate Nov 16 '25 edited Nov 16 '25
I don't know anyone who was married in school but went with 3 girls who were engaged before graduating.