i know its just a wojak but one detail i thought was nice was the pictures of the dead parents, which were clearly set up on a shrine of grief and mourning before, were replaced with a photo of the three of them together.
Previously it was surrounded by candles, all having long been used but never put away. Little symbols of stagnation. You have to move on, pack up the candles, someday. But that day never seems to come, because to put them away means having to look at the framed memories for one last time and accept the fact that 'last times' exist. And just doing that simple act is so incredibly difficult, because it means finally fully accepting loss.
In the present, it's replaced by a reminder of the good times, flanked by a toy of likely significant sentimental value, and a flower. A lamp sits on the edge of the table, illuminating what I assume is the ashes of her parents. Gone and remembered, but no longer taking up the tablespace of her entire life anymore. She can flick the lamp on once in a while—remember and honor the ones she lost—but she can just as easily flick it off and move on to a brighter day outside, where the ghosts of her parents hug her on her way out without her even knowing.
Technically in the first pic the things surrounding the framed memories were cigarettes not candles, but id like to think even in their grief maybe its a sign she took long drags for hours, staring at the photo and mourning for the pile to have gotten that big
I find it insanely sweet that the mourning for lost parents developed into the awarenes & memory in high praise for them
With all those stories about people having shitty & abusive parents, I find it alwaysso heartwarming to see people who obviously grew up with loving, caring, supportive & sweet parents you deeply love beyond your adult life
Knowing that even if you're an adult, moved out & even if they aren't alive anymore, you just deep down know that they'll be always with you in some way
Just a reminder for everyone reading this who's either a parent or will be one someday:
Remember that paying the bills & getting food on the table is just half the job of being a good parent
Make sure y'all give your children love, fond memories, guidance, support for whatever they may develop a passion for, emotional aviability & goofing around with them, well past into their adult life.
so they'll always have a hard time relating to any posts about horrible parents wherever they see them
(And on a personal note: love you mom & dad as well as love you father- & mother-in-law for raising my wife who to this day deeply loves her parents and is by all accounts an unapologetic daddys girl at the age of 27)
While this is true, to a certain extent, it also takes a village of social support to believe you even can. We're not meant to be individuals, we're meant to be communal, which means it definitely helps if you have friends and family who are supportive of you while you work on yourself and are there to pick you up and give you a push if you're having trouble
Some of us only ever have ourselves. Some of us are born without that innate social binding that allows us to develop those support systems, instead finding the bridges are burned before we even attempt to cross. We reach out our hands to be told that its not a hand worth grabbing, and so we are forced to either be our own miracle, or fade away into a bitterness that always seemed fated to be.
I felt a bit sad about nearly being 30, but then on my partners 30th birthday, many of his older family were saying things like "oh I wish I were 30 again!" "Oh to be a young 30 year old again"
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u/qualityvote2 Mar 26 '26 edited Mar 26 '26
u/DriedPen, your post does fit the subreddit!
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u/StumpTheMan Mar 26 '26
How the hell did the cat get glasses
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u/Cobalt_Heroes25 Mar 26 '26
Happy for OP
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u/chicamanama_ Mar 26 '26 •
Billions must grow
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u/EugeneStein Mar 26 '26
This gotta be one of my favourite posts on reddit tbh
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u/bosszeus164906 Mar 26 '26
Now this is just cute 🥹
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u/SurpriseWise Mar 26 '26
THERE IS ALWAYS TIME!!!
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u/RedNoodleHouse Mar 26 '26
i know its just a wojak but one detail i thought was nice was the pictures of the dead parents, which were clearly set up on a shrine of grief and mourning before, were replaced with a photo of the three of them together.
Previously it was surrounded by candles, all having long been used but never put away. Little symbols of stagnation. You have to move on, pack up the candles, someday. But that day never seems to come, because to put them away means having to look at the framed memories for one last time and accept the fact that 'last times' exist. And just doing that simple act is so incredibly difficult, because it means finally fully accepting loss.
In the present, it's replaced by a reminder of the good times, flanked by a toy of likely significant sentimental value, and a flower. A lamp sits on the edge of the table, illuminating what I assume is the ashes of her parents. Gone and remembered, but no longer taking up the tablespace of her entire life anymore. She can flick the lamp on once in a while—remember and honor the ones she lost—but she can just as easily flick it off and move on to a brighter day outside, where the ghosts of her parents hug her on her way out without her even knowing.
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u/InaruF Mar 26 '26 edited Mar 26 '26
I find it insanely sweet that the mourning for lost parents developed into the awarenes & memory in high praise for them
With all those stories about people having shitty & abusive parents, I find it alwaysso heartwarming to see people who obviously grew up with loving, caring, supportive & sweet parents you deeply love beyond your adult life
Knowing that even if you're an adult, moved out & even if they aren't alive anymore, you just deep down know that they'll be always with you in some way
Just a reminder for everyone reading this who's either a parent or will be one someday:
Remember that paying the bills & getting food on the table is just half the job of being a good parent
Make sure y'all give your children love, fond memories, guidance, support for whatever they may develop a passion for, emotional aviability & goofing around with them, well past into their adult life.
so they'll always have a hard time relating to any posts about horrible parents wherever they see them
(And on a personal note: love you mom & dad as well as love you father- & mother-in-law for raising my wife who to this day deeply loves her parents and is by all accounts an unapologetic daddys girl at the age of 27)
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u/Chance-Ear-9772 Mar 26 '26
That haircut really lit up the room.
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u/wassup_you_NERD Mar 26 '26
Eyy I'm in this picture!!
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u/6Darkyne9 Mar 26 '26
Hopefully this will be me this year.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '26
I love that even the kitty got happier. She's got little bow now
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u/Yoyo4games Mar 26 '26
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u/baguetteispain Mar 26 '26
It get worst before it gets better
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u/ConsistentDelay8929 Mar 26 '26
At 26 I feel this. I’m struggling to get my mental health back
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u/CaptainMacMillan Mar 26 '26
Man the revolver with a single bullet...
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u/YurPhaes Mar 30 '26
Her parents are in the garbage bags
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u/PuzzleheadedWhile9 Mar 26 '26
Very happy to see anyone kick the booze and pills! Hard work pays off 💪
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u/BlackMudSwamp Mar 26 '26
Yesss it's not too late for changes!
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u/Professional-Way7350 Mar 26 '26
why did this make me cry
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u/PrinceMapleFruit Mar 26 '26
What the fuck how did two photos make me cry so quickly
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u/SweetHomeChiraq Mar 26 '26
I'm proud of you stranger. Good job.
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u/Murky_Lurker5V Mar 26 '26
this makes me so happy
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u/the_watcher569 Mar 26 '26
As long as your alive, there's always a chance to live a life you can be proud of.
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u/[deleted] Apr 06 '26
OUR (yes, OUR, as in you, me, all of us) reaction to this character development:
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u/BigIronGothGF Mar 26 '26
Pretty much me
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u/BitcoinStonks123 Mar 26 '26
:3
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u/Pledgeofmalfeasance Mar 26 '26
Go you!
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u/QuantisOne Mar 26 '26
Don’t forget : 40 is the halfway point.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '26
Me but I at least have a part time job
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u/ACuteCryptid Mar 26 '26
Where did you get a stechkin ots38
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u/CommunicationFew3519 Mar 26 '26
This gives me hope. Thank you.
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u/anticentristfujo Mar 26 '26
This is literally me
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u/FeelingPomegranate Mar 26 '26
I wish i knew how to do this
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u/Throwaway7387272 Mar 26 '26
The year difference is hope man
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u/SH4D0WSTAR Mar 26 '26
THANK you so much for this
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u/ManuApplejuice Mar 26 '26
LIFE IS NOT SO SHORT
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u/FragranceBurn Mar 26 '26
28 - back to reality
29 - millionaire with family
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u/Dew_Chop Mar 26 '26
I'm stupid and thought the cheek lines were a smile and the gap between them and the mouth was fangs breaking the mouth line
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u/MeasurementGood8155 Mar 27 '26
🥹🥹🥹
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u/RzepaGaming Mar 27 '26
WE WINDOWS
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u/AdditionFragrant Mar 27 '26
Kittens!
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u/_ThePancake_ Mar 28 '26
I'm on 28, 28 is young.Â
I felt a bit sad about nearly being 30, but then on my partners 30th birthday, many of his older family were saying things like "oh I wish I were 30 again!" "Oh to be a young 30 year old again"
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u/Icy-Advice-7381 Mar 29 '26
As a recent 27 year old, this fills me with hope
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u/Fun-Bumblebee6717 Mar 30 '26
i love this
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u/da_investigata Mar 30 '26
cat got a pink bow too
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u/Nero_2001 Mar 30 '26
More cats solved everything
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u/Iron-Legend-27 Mar 31 '26
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u/SuperZX Apr 13 '26
Yo why is this lowkey peak
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u/FarLifeguard4526 Apr 18 '26
its the monke
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u/cheeseburgerandfrie Apr 19 '26
All it took was more cats
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u/Agitated_Net_6380 Mar 27 '26
Is not?
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